Visitors at the hospital on birth day...

Amanda
My total preference is to not have anyone at the hospital when I'm in labor and when it's time to give birth. I really don't like to be around people when I'm not feeling good so i can't imagine that I would want people around when I'm having labor pains, besides my husband. I don't want people hearing or seeing me scream and cry. Honestly, I probably would want it if I had a totally different family. My family is so drama, competitive, & jelous. I just seriously dread dealing with it. I would much rathee prefer them to come over to my house when I'm cleaned up, fresh, & wearing a bra. Am I wrong for this?
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Ca

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No.. nothing wrong with that.. I'm requesting that my visiting hours be between 12-5 the day AFTER I give birth. No one is allowed my day of delivery due to me trying to get breast feeding down and bonding.. don't want ppl coming in and out. If they cone during visiting hrs, I'll be up clean dressed and ready to be social.. not before or after

Mr

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We had no one there but our parents (which was a surprise!). I had a scheduled csection and I think that we had a total of ten visitors while I was in the hospital (3 days) and the only family was our folks. If you don't want them there, it's totally okay to tell them that. You are the one giving birth and it's you and your husband's baby, so it's your choice. Then, tell the nurses that you want NO visitors until otherwise informed and they will be your bouncers for any family member that missed the memo. 😉My hospital also encouraged no one but daddy, mama, and baby for the first few hours and throughout the days after that. It's just good bonding time for you guys and baby, and lots of noises and people can overwhelm baby, especially right off.

Ka

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When I have my little boy, it'll just be my boyfriend and I. Close family and friends can go in the waiting room if they really want(his parents, my parents, my two best friends) but they won't be going in at all or visiting until after I'm home.

Be

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The only person who will be with me is my husband. After i have the baby I want my mom to bring my other two children to meet the new baby. It's so hard to breastfeed and everything with people in and out.

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We're not allowing anyone at the hospital the entire time we're in there. Once we get home, that's a different story but we don't want the stress and headache of visitors wanting to pass around our newborn daughter. We want to make sure she doesn't get stressed out and more importantly, we don't want to risk people who may be sick or coming down with something being around her right when she's straight out of the womb.

t1

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It's also great for bonding as a family (you three) if it's just y'all for the first initial days in the hospital. 

Ji

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Not wrong at all - in any medical setting it is totally up to the patient who is there. If you're more comfortable with just your partner, then that's how it should be. I'm the same - no one will be allowed to visit until the baby has arrived and we're both settled.

Mo

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You are not wrong, its how you feel. Be true to yourself, you want to be as comfortable as possible and no extra stress. Tell family and friends you both decided to welcome visitors once you are home, but you'd like the hospital to be your family bonding time. Having a baby is stressful enough, so many new and unknown things.

Ka

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No, you're not wrong. Just make sure to voice your thoughts to your family members and let the nurses or hospital staff knows. You have to be very firm!

Am

Amanda • Aug 19, 2016
well, my sister did it this way and everyone freaked out. it was a big deal. my grandpa asked me if I was gonna do what my sister did and I said well I don't know yet, we haven't made that decision yet. he got so mad & told me "well, it's not really about you. it's about us (him & my grandma) and the baby." BUH! are you kidding me! i just carried her for 9 months went through labor and birth! are you kidding me!?! I didn't say anything to him, but next time it gets brought up, I probabaly will.

Vi

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Nope not at all. I was the same way with my in laws. I didn't mind my mom and sister being there for my husband and I but we both hated his parents being there! I think it's like you said if my in laws were different I might not would of cared but they're annoying inconsiderate people. Just don't tell anyone when you go to the hospital until you're there awhile and when they do come tell the nurse not to let anyone in or to kick them out after a few mins.