My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. Earlier this year we had a pretty rough time and took some weeks a part. Shortly before his birthday we decided to get back together and work out our problems. Because of that rough spot, I tried to make a big deal out of his birthday to make him super happy and to know how much I love and care about him. I spent a lot of money.

Blink-182 reunion tour tickets (his favorite band of all time) - $450

Billy Currington tickets - $40 (WASTED bc we didn't go 😒)

Dinner the night before his birthday - $70

Dinner the night of his birthday -$35ish (we split it)

Hotel room on his birthday -$115

His fave snacks, beer, and other goodies for hotel room -$70

THATS ALMOST $800!!!!

Now, I know most of it was spread out. I bought the concert tickets months before (like before we decided to take some time a part) and like I said, I really didn't mind bc I love him and wanted to make it special! However, money is extremely tight for me bc I recently went from working full time to part time in order to focus on school and graduate college and he knows that I'm living paycheck to paycheck. His birthday gifts literally set me behind all summer as far as money goes.

So my birthday was yesterday and I'm not sure what happened but last year he didn't get me anything for my birthday. Like I don't even think he took me out for a birthday dinner or anything....and like he told me this year he really wanted to make up for it and had such a great gift. So he took me to a baseball game last night (which I had actually planned on paying for myself) but other than that he didn't get me anything. Like I showed him some books and candles and bath stuff I wanted and some other pretty inexpensive things. But nothing. He was with me all weekend and every time I brought it up he just kind of avoided the subject.

I'm by no means high maintenance, and I don't really define our relationship by how we spoil each other. But it's my damn birthday. Like I'm just kind of irritated that for some reason he can't seem to make me feel special on this day. Like I can understand not going all out for Christmas bc we both have family and friends to shop for. But my birthday? If there was one day of the year to spoil anyone, it'd be their birthday. Not to mention, TWO years in a row...? And he's normally really great at getting gifts. I just don't understand. Like my birthday has been the same day all 4 years of our relationship.

It just bothers me so much. And idk how to even talk to him about it. I literally decided that if I don't get a gift, I'm just not getting him anything for Christmas. I mean, maybe I'm ungrateful or selfish but why should I keep buying things for him and spending money when I don't get anything in return?

I just don't know what to do, and idk why it bothers me so much. 😔

Long distance

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