I'm a FTM and am 9 months pregnant now. They say you lighten up after your first kid, second ones are easier. I would love to not freak out about everything with the first, I am just not really that uptight. What are some things I should ACTUALLY worry about and what are things that you should just let go. Like do you really have to boil all pacifiers? Or is that overkill. Just wondering, thanks!