Should she be in the delivery room?

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I need your help. 
I have a very weird relationship with my sister. Mind you, she is 38 and I am 22. Big age difference. You'd expect her to be the mature one, right? 
Wrong. 
My sister has a severe case of bipolar disorder and she's constantly on and off meds. I have no clue if she's been medicated the last few months, and that is pertinent to this story. 
I got pregnant by my then-boyfriend last December. We got married in June, had the baby shower in July, and I'm getting induced on Sunday. 
My sister has started drama at every event, starting with the wedding. She offered to sing a song, to which I said yes, and then backed out because her anxiety would be too bad. I understood and said that's fine. She helped with literally everything else! But because she didn't get to stand up in the wedding, she threw a fit and said she didn't feel important. 
Fast forward to the baby shower. My in laws are odd (story for another time) but my husband's sisters helped with the cake and decorations because they're all super creative. Everyone was at my house and apparently my sister didn't get to do enough so she stormed into another room and sat on her phone the entire time. Then later on complained that I only used her for her van to take the decorations to the hall. 
Due to my pregnancy brain I ended up asking 4 people to be in the delivery room with me instead of 3, which is the limit. So I've been torn with figuring out which of my friends I have to let down, we'll say J and C. 
Yesterday she literally said "I feel like it's not between J and C, but ME and one of them!!" And I thought, you know, maybe it should be a choice between them and you. 
I'm afraid that if she's in the room with me she's just going to start more unnecessary drama. I'm sick of it. 
Yes there is more to the story, yes I have done wrong to her as well, but I at least admit when I've done wrong and I change my ways. She doesn't change. I don't know what to do at this point.

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I won't even let my mother be there when I give birth. She's unstable. No shame in my choice. You MUST be comfortable with who you have by your side. It may cause a fight,but o well. If you have someone who makes you uneasy in the room, it can backfire and your labor can, and probably will stop. You being calm and comfortable is the absolute most important thing.

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I feel like if your sister is there,  she need a babysitter.  And that's the last thing you need.  I'd say tell her now and skip the drama at the hospital.  Good luck!

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Sounds like she is the type of person that will create drama whether she's in the room or not. For your sanity and happiness I would suggest only allowing people who bring you a sense of calmness in the room.

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Personally I didn't want anyone one in the delivery room but my husband. Some people like to have someone else special there, you decide for you and screw what others think. When it's push time I don't see why anyone feels entitled to be present except for the baby's father. I did let my mother inlaw come into the room before the actual pushing part of labor started but otherwise no. Between you, your SO, the doctors and nurses that's enough chaos in itself. Your sister sounds like a problem and a stressful person to have around, you don't need that for you or the baby. Good luck!

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You don't want drama during your labor and delivery. What if you tell everyone you've changed your mind and that you and your husband just decided that you want that special time for just the 2 of you to experience. ??

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I think you know the answer. You've outlined that she turns just about an event into being about her. She clearly is incapable of just sitting back and being happy for you. Would any amount of involvement ever make her happy? No. She is jealous/bitter/upset that you are the center of attention for these events and that's why, whether consciously or subconsciously she acts out and does these things. This is your labour and your birth. Do what's in your heart. You already know what you have to do, it's just a tough decision to admit to. Good luck mama :)

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Can't have drama while your pushing your baby out, she needs to drop it. Its your kid.

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Honestly, if it was me, I wouldn't let her into the delivery room. It sounds like she tries to makes it about her every chance she gets and this is NOT the time for her to be doing that.

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Whoever you are more comfortable with. If thats her cool or if it doesn't include her oh well. Do what you want it's your body, your baby and your labor. Do whatever you want. You can also test it out. If shes starting drama ask her to leave. If she starts out in the she doesn't need to stay there the whole time if shes bugging you.

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I have family like this and unfortunately, people don't change. If she's had a history of creating drama at big events and making things about herself, she's likely to do the same at your birth. One of my family members is not allowed at my birth for this reason. Maybe instead of asking her to leave, you can have the nurses kick her out after a little while before the birth saying something like "mom needs alone time" or something. Or if you can do it, just un-invite her...unless you genuinely want her there no matter what. She might throw a fit and make it about herself, but I can guarantee you won't regret the added stress if she was there. Good luck!

Should she be in the delivery room?

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