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My babe is 3 1/2 weeks old. She won't stop crying and I'm home all alone all day with her while my husband is at school. I feel so lonely and don't have any hobbies. How can a newborn take up so much energy, yet i feel like I'm not doing anything at all. I can't even clean my house or make food. I feel like a failure as a wife and a mom. I feel like I've lost myself. Of course I love my little girl so much sometimes I just cry because I love her so much. I just don't know what is going on and I can't talk about it to anyone. Sometimes I think I'm not cut out to be a mom.

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The first few weeks are SO hard! It really does get better, hang in there and you will start to see a change in feeds, sleep and behaviour. It's so difficult I know. During those tough weeks when I wondered if I had made a huge mistake having a baby I just kept remembering what a dear friend said to me... 'Get to 5 weeks and the clouds will part'! It was true! Then the 6 week mark was awful again for a few days but now at 12 weeks things are fantastic. It's short term, your clouds will asp part 😊

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I feel like I wrote this!!! I went through all of this when my baby was about 3 to 10 weeks old. I sought out a therapist and she had me try these ideas.... They really helped!

~Write letters to your baby about your day.  I opted for a diary where I can give it to her some day. My therapist said that often times life really isn't as bad as we think it is.. And PPD amplifies the worst part. If you write, you tend to amplify the good stuff so you tend to feel better.

~Write down EVERYTHING you do. I mean everything.... Get a pack of highlighters and color code it. One for you, one for baby, one for hubby, one for house, etc.  That way you can see where you are applying your energy.  If you don't do something for yourself you can take note of that and be sure to treat yourself.

Just a couple of ideas. Good luck! Hope you begin feeling better!

(ps my baby is 9 months old now. I have my moments here and there. I still write to my baby. It still helps)

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It gets better, I remember feeling all those things and doubting my abilities to do this. But it improves with time, babies become easier and you start to enjoy it more. Is there any mom and baby groups you can go to just to meet with people going through the same thing? Don't worry too much about the messy house, you'll never get these moments back with your baby, your house can be cleaned later. Good luck!

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Norma new mom feelings. It will pass motherhood sucks. I have had several meltdowns on the weekends and just left my son with my husband and said "don't call me. I need a break."  It's normal to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, stressed and lonely. Being a mom to a newborn IS lonely. And so difficult too.

I promise it will get better. My son just turned 3 months and every day it gets better and better. He's less fussy. He's not yelling and crying all day. He's more smiley and loves to play. The first few months are rough but you're not alone. We're all here for you.

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It's ok. You're ok. If I hadn't have had two kiddos before my daughter 2 months ago, I may have been asking myself these same things. And I'm sure I was before. It just goes by so fast we forget. And we're sleep deprived so we forget 😊. Just like many mothers on here are saying, it really does get better and easier. Give yourself a ton of slack. You just had a baby. I know it happens every day in this world and overlooked because it's so common, but your body just went through one hell of a journey from conception to birth. And now you're caring 24/7 for this tiny bundle of love. So the house isn't clean, oh well. You have you're whole life to clean later.

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I was in the same predicament. It's tough during the first couple weeks. I got really depressed and felt like I was doing everything and nothing at the same time. It's just you figuring it out. I think that's all it is. Getting the routine down. I'm back and work now but still struggling. It's getting better though. Just not my sleep schedule yet. Lol. But I am happy with my little one. Things get easier I promise. (:

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I'm 3 weeks too and my priority is baby and staying sane. I clean and cook if i can and feel up for it..hubby has been taking over this and I'm grateful...Baby takes up all my energy

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Is normal to feel that way. I remember when I had my daughter n the first month or so was really hard cuz I was home alone with my 7year old boy and my newborn. I remember at times it was so hard I couldn't even go to the restroom and I would breakdown and cry. My advice to you is cry it out if you need to and trust me it will get better you just have to try and have a routine like whenever your boyfriend is at home with you make sure you shower and eat before he leaves or buy yourself a baby carrier so you can get more stuff done while having your baby on you. Now I'm pregnant with my 3rd my baby girl will be turning 1 year old when my new baby arrives so I'm for sure need to find a routine and find ways to make my life easier.

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Don't lose hope! It gets easier! I promise!

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I was in this exact place. Just know your only job now is that baby. The rest should wait. And that makes you a great everything! Prioritize properly.

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