Judgmental inlaws and family... help?

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How do you deal with judgemental family/in laws that like to make comments on how many kids you have?

We have 2 little girls. A nearly 3yo. And a 9mo (will be 1year December 22nd) and hubby and i want to start talking about having a 3rd. We are terrified of our family's reactions... They were so negative with the 2nd. Yes, we are young (im 21 my husband is 23). We make 70k+ a year, have 2 new cars, in the process of buying a house, have little to no unneeded bills, and amazing insurance.... i dont see the issue of having a 3rd...

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Sounds like it's their issue not yours. You do what you want to do! Fuck what they think.

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You obviously don't need there help financially. Do they help out alot with child care just thinking that could be a reason thay they feel like they can comment if it means another grandchild to look after.

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Honey, all I'm gonna say is, don't involve them, when or if you get pregnant announce the pregnancy when you feel like it. I'm 27 my husband is 28, we own our own home with an extra property for a bigger yard, we have two cars, we have 5 dogs three cats and FOUR kids, next year we want to try for the 5th. We have great insurance, don't have to worry about bills, when i got pregnant with my 3rd my in laws and his family would tell us stop having kids till we just distanced ourselves and when asked why we would be honest and tell them that them being nosey and judgmental was just giving us horrible negative vibes that we didn't want in our lives. After the 4th one i was huge and my in law would tell me again why didn't you tell me, and again because you want to decide for us what use i  should give my uterus and she never once brought up the stop having kids, they know we handle ourselves and we have NEVER once relied on anyone or government for help so they just stopped. Go on and complete that family of yours with no worries, they don't feed you guys nor clothe youor pay bills, just tell them to stick those noses out of your reproductive system and your husband's swimmers lol

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First your baby is born on my bday. Second to hell with your family do they pay y'alls bill, buy foods, put a roof over your family head. I wouldn't till them until I start showing.

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Don't let them stop you guys. You guys seem to be in a good place and doing good then most people right now. Only you no what's good for all of you.

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Just do it,  your in a way better place then my husband and I and we're having our second and my family is very supportive of us.

Judgmental inlaws and family... help?

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