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Husband Uncomfortable With A Midwife

I was writing down questions to ask my midwife at my first appointment when my husband started to question me on using a midwife.

His mother had him and two girls. She had placenta previa with him, double nuchal cord that resulted in breaking the baby's shoulder to unwrap it with his first sister, and the other sister was born prematurely after a few months in the hospital on bed rest and then his mom hemmoraghed after birth. So naturally he sees labor and delivery as an emergency.

I have always known I would go through a midwife. My mother had 5 vaginal births all normal, and my older sister just had a natural water birth with no complications other than tearing.

I believe the OB/GYN World treats labor like a crisis rather than a natural event and there are far too many unnecessary interventions used in labor and delivery today. I have found a midwife that does births at the local hospital, so I can have the baby in the hospital setting. But my husband is still extremely uncomfortable with not going through a doctor. I'm extremely uncomfortable in going WITH a doctor.

How do you recommend we go through this conversation/decision making process?

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