Ladies I'm desperately needing help with the issue I'm having with my husband right now. I'm a non smoker of any kind and have never done any kind of drug. My husband however loves to smoke weed, when we met before we were dating all he would do was sit at home and get high all day. That just bugs me. Anyways by the time we were dating and for married he had quit because he signed up for the army. For the 3 years he was in he never smoked. Now that he's out and we are back home (colorado) he's started smoking again. We got into a huge fight about it the day he started because he did it with my mom who pretty much pushed him to it which is a different story. Anyways now he randomly does it during the day so it's not like he use to. But I'm annoyed because he was saying before how he will continue to stay clean, and after our fight he even said he will smoke what he has and that's it. But I kinda know that's a lie. Anyways to the point I myself don't want to be married to a person who has to depend on that stuff. I'm not against it completely if it's for an actual reason medically. But doing it randomly before I'm going to the hospital to see my uncle who was getting pulled off life support that day, and walking around my family with your eyes blood shot red just doesn't vibe with me. I feel like I'm in the wrong to tell him he can't smoke but at the same time I really don't think I can be married to a man like this :\ am I over reacting and making it a bigger deal?

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