sex? I need help!!!!!

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I'm 14 (plz don't judge) I'm talking to a boy that's a lil older than me and he really wants to have sex and wants me to suck his dick... its not that I don't want to do it I just don't know how... I've never even made out with anyone he tryed but to do it last night but I pulled away because I didn't wanna look stupid and embarrassed my self.... a lot of stuff I read on here says that like it hurts really bad having sexy the first time... does it really???? If u have any comments or advice plz comment cause I don't have a mom and I'm not gonna talk to my dad about this so if u guys have any advice good or bad plz a wanna here!?!?!

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What do you like about this guy? Is he sweet? Does he put you first? Is he considerate of your feelings? Does he take you out places you like? Has he met your dad? What do you do that's not about sex? Because honestly, from what you said in your last post, it sounds like he's using you for sex, and you deserve better.

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Don't do it !

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The best advice I can give you is to wait till you are alot older. Doing sexual things at the age of 14 and giving yourself that reputation so young is not a good thing. I know it's not about what others think and say, but are you sure this is something you would look back on and be proud about?  I think you should stay away from him too, sounds like he is just using you. Every sexual experience is emotional. Don't waste those emotions on just anyone. Save it for the right person!  Just my own personal opinion. Goodluck, and I'm not judging at all and no hate. I just want you to be sure and not do something you are going to regret girl. 🌸

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If you can't talk to your dad about having safe sex and needing birth control first , my suggestion would to be to wait . It's better to be safe

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Take your time! It sounds like you haven't kissed much or made out? Don't just jump strait into sex and skip everything else, all of the wonderful experiences :) is this boy "experienced"? He might be using you...

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Depending how old he is u could be participating in something illegal - have u thought about that?

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And if this boy knows you've never made out or even if he doesn't, there really isn't a way you can embarras yourself. If you don't feel 100% ready, don't let this guy pressure you. You want all of these experiences to be enjoyable and comfortable and as for sex the first time you want someone who will be understanding about the pain, which doesn't last but a second.

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I didn't lose my virginity until just recently. I'm 19 years old, he's 18. We were both virgins. I've had plenty of chances, but when it came right down to the wire, it didn't feel right so I backed out. All of the guys were understanding. And now I'm with the guy that was actually my very first "boyfriend" way back in 7th grade. We decided to try dating now that we're older, and we couldn't be happier. We lost our virginity to each other because it felt right and we do not regret it. He treats me like a princess and always makes sure that I'm feeling okay. If this guy doesn't make sure that you're comfortable with what you're about to do, then say no. And honey, a big dick really isn't that valuable. Your emotional well-being is.

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Go check out Scarleteen. It's a great website that's sex positive and gives you real information.

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If you feel you are ready, I think that you should go ahead and explore girl! 
But as many have said, as best as you can, make sure that the person your are giving access to your body and vise versa is someone that will not hurt you in any way. You deserve and should be respected, to feel completely comfortable and safe (especially this being your first time; maturity does say a lot so do choose correctly for our own sake) because, comfort can help you mentally to think more clearly and also physically allows your body to relax.
What I suggest is to do your resreach before doing anything new. If you're uncomfortable asking or aren't getting the answeres you need through the comments or whatever, Google it! Any question you have will be answered, check more than one site to make sure the info is research, watch videos because some people are more visual learners (personally I am, so videos helped me a lot for what I know about actual sex performance) but you also have to know enough to make the difference between real life and videos.

I can go on and on because sex/sexual acts is huge and comes in many formes. Learn the pros and cons of your actions then you can get it on or choose to wait until a new opportunity arrives. Be patient don't force it girl.

If ever you have more questions on this topic or just want to have a conversation about anything, I'd be glad to chat with you just comment and let me know.

Good luck, be safe and hope this helped ;)

sex? I need help!!!!!

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