MIL and husband called me an unfit mother!

So I'm a strong believer and making your child independent of you. My MIL and I were at dinner one night and were talking about childcare and I said that i will make my baby self soothe. After he hits 3-6 months (depending on my comfort with leaving him alone) I want him to sleep in his own room and cry it out if it's not feeding or changing time. I also said I don't want my child to grow dependant on a pacifier instead I want my baby to have a comfort blanket and soothe himself with that. I said it's important to found a strong base of Independence. She told me I would be an unfit mother and she hopes my husband will take over since I apparently am too lazy to take care of them and hate them. I never said I hated children I love children. Next thing I know my SIL and FIL both ganged up on me too. I was looking at my husband (who when we discuss this always agrees with me) and he nodded along with his parents and didn't support me at all! He said maybe I'd be better off working and he stay home with the kids. I felt betrayed and heartbroken. I've never felt something so painful in my life! To be told I'm going to be a unfit mother hurt me so bad it took everything I had in me not to cry. And my husband agreeing with them hurt even more! I'm crying just talking about it now. Am I wrong for making this plan? I was taught to self soothe and I have grown up very independent and successful. I refuse to not have a part in raising the children. I'm their mother! I'm the one who will give birth to them and I'm the one who will love them unconditionally until I die. What they said felt so cruel. I'm not a mother yet but this shamed me so much that I don't even know if I want kids with my husband anymore I'm just so hurt. What do you guys think? Please tell me your opinion below.