Birthday fight with husband

So it was my husbands birthday this past Saturday. I tried to plan a golf outing with 3 of his friends then asked if they would all take him out to the bar. He said he didn't want to do that and instead have a poker game in our garage. It's his birthday so I said sure. When the day came I tried to make it special. He turned 33 so I left 33 love notes around the house for him to find. Then I spent the day baking and cooking for poker night. He had 10 friends come over. I of course eventually fell asleep on the couch because I was tired with our 11 year old, 8 year old and 2 month old craziness. I woke up to my youngest crying at 4:30 am and they are all still drinking in my garage. I took my baby upstairs to her room to feed her and at 5am my husband stumbles up the stairs and I immediately got upset. I felt he was being selfish and inconsiderate of our home and our 3 children. We started to fight and he locked himself in my daughters room with her because he said I was being crazy. We physically fought as well. We are ok now but it was terrible. Was I wrong for being upset? He said I ruined his birthday because I was so mad. Please, I need to find peace with this argument so I can let it go fully. Thanks