seriously?? I have to get this off my chest

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My SO told me that if I get too exhausted to wake him up in the middle of the night to help with the baby.
I had already been up a few times with her, and she was up again wanting to eat and needing to be changed.
I was so exhausted I asked him to please get up and feed and change her. 
His response was "UGH, we'll go warm me up a bottle for her."

If I have to get out of bed to warm up a bottle of milk then I might as well just tend to her myself! The whole f*cking point was that I am exhausted and didn't wanted a chance to keep sleeping.
He hasn't been any sort of help since she had been born! It's so annoying, and he goes back to work Monday-so it will only get worse.

Why have a kid of you don't want to help take care of her? He thinks he gets to pick and choose only fun stuff?
Does he not realize that i change 95% of the diapers. Get up at least 4 times a night with her. Do all her laundry and change her every day.  How the hell does he think she gets taken care of and why the hell does he think he doesn't have to contribute to that???

--sorry, had to get that off my chest!

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I would simply hand him your LO and say "Here you left this in my vagina" and walk away.

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Parenting is tough on relationships but communication is key. Cherish the precious moments he is enjoying his daughter and think of those when your left with the not so fun parts. I Love how much my Husband Loves his baby. I can see it when he holds and plays with her during the fun parts. We have to take the good with the bad and appreciate what we do have. Soon the night time feedings will be less and your body will adjust to the fatigue. Sleep when she sleeps and ask for help from other friends and Family. Make sure to take sometime for yourself. Find a sitter for a couple hours and go to dinner with your man or even lunch with a friend. Before you know it your baby will be 1 then 2 and so on. Look forward to the future but do what you can to enjoy the present. Good Luck

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Tell him that.

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Ugh men!! I totally feel this post! 
I wish I had some advice.

My husband is currently off for 6 weeks (1 week left) and he is sleeping downstairs so we can have the bed. He stays up til 2am watching tv and then complains when I won't let him nap the next day. 
I was having really bad stomach cramps last night and I called him to ask him to change her so I didn't have to stand up. I breastfeed so I still had to be awake to feed her. He complained about that and I ended up "helping" with the diaper change.
He does the laundry and the dishes for me though, until he goes back.

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I stay home with the baby and my fiance works 8-5. I take on the responsibility of getting up at night because I know he has to be at work and I can take naps during the day which he can't . He does offer to help but I rather him get his rest and I don't mind . sometimes you have to make the sacrifice . He does how ever take him on the weekends so I can have time to myself. Maybe that would work for you guys. Also try a bottle warmer in the room could help . theres always a solution

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So annoying!!!! I do 100% of night duties so I totally feel for you. I would give anything to sleep through a feeding. You should have kicked him out of the bed. Lol

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Ugh my BF the other night after I'd had a tough day "sleep well please"

Meanwhile he's snoring during the night, I poke and prod him until he rolls over or stops. He verbally abuses me and gets the shits. Yup. Cheers for that mate.

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My boyfriend does the same exact thing. He says that he'd love to stay home and take care of our son instead of work but he doesn't realize how hard it is to actually parent a child, he has been help with the financial part of a child but nothing else. He tells me to wake him up at night if I need help and I try but he falls right back asleep or threatens me with the "I'll just fall asleep holding him" stuff, so annoying.

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My husband took a feeding at 3am. Baby spit up all over himself,  so I told him to grab a onsie and his swaddle...Baby came back fully dressed for the day, socks and all...and completely awake. I asked my husband where the onsie was...his response? "Onsie, twosie,  threesie...I don't know what a damn onsie is." Ask me!!! I was up until 7am with him, livid and in tears. We talked about it this morning. I try to take all feedings during the week and he gets more during the weekend.

He does a really good job taking care of him, I just have to remember he doesn't have it down yet. Last night, I went to bed at 6pm and let him take him until bedtime. Those extra couple of hours helped immensely,  especially bc my son was UP EVERY TWO HOURS, WTF.

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This happened when our sweetie was born. She was up every hour of the night until she was 6 months. After a few weeks of me doing everything I broke down and completely bitched him out. We decided that I would get up with her from whenever she went to sleep until 4 and he would get up with her from 4 until whenever she woke up. It worked out pretty well. But we are both in college, so since your husband goes back to work tomorrow it's probably a little different 😕 I hope you get it worked out

seriously?? I have to get this off my chest

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