No Af, BFN...

Stacy
So af was suppose to be here 10/9 but nothing and all my test have been bfn
I made a doctors app to go see if they can tell what's going on. 
We really want #2 but this stupid messed up cycle isn't making it easy. 
What's some ideas to get my head off of trying to get pregnant. I'm hoping if I just forget about it then it will happen. 
Also- I stopped depo last year in September, do you think this has something to do with this?