Is it ever ok for a man to check out another woman while he's w his wife?

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I am 34wks, quite moody and I have zero tolerance for bull crap from the husband right now 😒 
Saw him checking out a woman's ass while we were out today, he says it is "NO BIG DEAL" that I am exajerating, that he was walking behind her and "HAS" to look at her. He wasn't "looking" at her, he was checking her ass out. I know he's behind her, you can be behind someone without checking their ass out. I know he likes big booty (which I do not have) so he makes me feel pretty shitty when he does this (it is not the first time) Am I over reacting ladies???

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Depends how hard he was looking, for me. Passing glance or dead staring? There is a big difference. But you can't expect him to NOT look at all. We're all human with working eyes.

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It's personal preference. I don't think it's okay. There were a few times my husband did it and I was so hurt. You honestly cant control what hurts you, so if it hurts you, it's a problem! So peopl are okay with it, i'm not. I find it rude. One time we were out, he looked at another girl, just staring at her as she walked by. So a ripped shirtless guy was by us and i stared at him and smiled (even though i didnt find him attractive) he got upset and finally realized how i felt. Since then i havent actually seen him looking at girls like that. I think the real problem is when they do it, and deny it

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If he knows it upsets you, he should make an effort to stop. I don't mind when my husband does. I usually spot her first and point her out! But if it did seriously bother me I know he would stop.

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The thing is, it did hurt you so yes it does matter, and no you're not overreacting if that's how he made you feel. You have every right to tell him off and I'm sure if he knows how you're feeling he won't stare at someone in your presence again. Other people will probably say that they don't mind, that they do it aswell etc, but that doesn't mean that is 'the right way' to react to the situation, cause there isn't one. Everyone's different and everyone reacts to things in different ways, just because you felt something a little more strongly than to how someone else would take it doesn't mean you're 'overeacting' or doing something wrong, at all.

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You should definitely check out ripped guys when you see them. That'll show your husband exactly how you feel. Hell, if there's a hot guy running on the street, pretend to break your neck to get a peek at him. It'll drive your husband wild. My husband knows better now that I am pregnant especially. I feel so much more insecure now and I'm not even sporting a bump yet.

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So I don't see a problem with it because he doesn't get upset when I look at guys. And 9 times out of 10, I'll be checking the girl out as well. But I think it varies on person and relationships.

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You have to kind of step outside of the situation and realize that there are people out there your husband (and you) will find attractive and will want to check out. It's natural. We ARE animals and its instinct. You just have to remember that he's with YOU. :-)

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He's human - he can't help but notice other women especially ones he's attracted to so on that side I say yes you are overreacting however if he's making a show of gawking at her disrespectfully than that you can be upset about.

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I know my husband does it. Hell I check men out. So what? You look with your eyes, not your hands. Long as he keeps his mouth shut, his hands to himself, and his belt buckled he's allowed to look at other women. 
Because a relationship isn't just physical attraction. I know there are women prettier than me but he loves me for more than my looks. He won't just drop me and run because the girl at Walmart has a nicer butt.

Sometimes I point out women to him and we talk together about it. I'm straight but I can appreciate an attractive woman when I see one. I don't see it as a big deal.

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Personally I dont care and half the time I'm looking right along with him lol. A glance is not a big deal but a downright stare is just rude

Is it ever ok for a man to check out another woman while he's w his wife?

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