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Got called a bad mom by MIL

So my baby is 3 months old & my MIL is constantly telling me I'm a bad mom because I don't put a pillow and blanket in his crib and also because I don't have a bumper in his crib but I've read so many things about babies suffocating when people use those things so I refuse to. All I have is his sheet in his crib & he sleeps in his pjs and a halo sleep sack so he doesn't need a blanket. Do you think I'm a bad mom because I won't let him have those things in his crib? I know it's cuter to have bumpers and stuff but I care more about the safety of my baby. Help I feel so down 
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Wo

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You are a fabulous mother and protecting your child from harm!!!! Tell your MIL to educate herself and mind her own business!!!

Yu

Yuta • Oct 25, 2016
ALL THE UPVOTES!!!

Ca

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I think she's one confused lady if she believes crib bumpers and pillows make someone a good mother. 🙄 

Br

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I just took a child safety class. Everything she's criticizing you for falls on the list of things they said not to do. Nothing in the crib but tightly fitted crib sheets, baby, and wearable blankets/sleepers--not loose blankets. Don't feel bad for doing what is safest for your baby. 

Si

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Don't listen to her. damn does she want your baby to suffocate? All MIL's are idiots. 

KR

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She's going off of old ideals and clearly she isn't up to new infant care.You are not supposed to have any kind of blankets, pillows, stuffed animals or bumpers on the crib (some say the mess Jena are okay, by that's subjective). Show her the research. You're not a terrible mom, she's a nosy, nasty woman who is overstepping her boundaries.

Rr

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Print information with website link n drs name  etc n paste it near ur crib . Heading should be, Beware! Not to do . Or paste it where she will definitely see it 

Rr

Rr • Oct 26, 2016
U can easily even say u printed it for urself or hubby , if she make issues why u printed this to annoy her

Am

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Don't listen to her! You are being a great mom for thinking of your child's safety first. I was told nothing in the crib with the baby besides the fitted sheet until 1 year of age.  The baby will be  plenty warm! They make those fleece sleepers, so the baby is definitely warm enough. 

Un

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Ohhh dont listen ...  things were just way different back then...... she is just rude.... mother's rule is to let other mothers do whatever they want ;) dont listen to her you did your research and are doing what you feel right...., sounds perfect :) you're doing great! 

Fr

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You're fine. She's wrong. But I suppose she's thinking that she's right. So she thinks she's helping. Your baby isn't going to remember the crib and think "mom! How could you put me in such a boring crib?!?" And being able to breathe is much better than being cute. 

Br

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Find an article online on SIDS prevention and send that to your MIL for a read!

Am

Amy • Oct 25, 2016
I agree! You are doing everything right!
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