Any advice to guarantee we BD on correct days

My sex drive is so much higher than my husbands. We typically have sex once a month ....and that's me trying and initiating sex every single day. So we both want a baby. The first month we BD'd three times my fertile week. The second month we BD'd five days and three days before O. We attempted the day before but he just couldn't. He doesn't want me to tell him when I'm ovulating because of the added stress and pressure. He wants me to "figure it out". I am at a loss because I always try to initiate and get rejected. I've tried sexy lingerie and no luck. I feel like the baby is never going to happen with lack of sex. Any ideas?? :( Should i just try not to initiate any sex until the day before O??