My husband doesn't want a baby?

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We've been having unprotected sex lately and on Sunday he ejaculated in me knowing the consequences. Today is Wednesday and he said that he is worried that he got me pregnant and wants me to take Plan B. Taking the pill 3 days later is probably not effective anymore. If he was really worried he should have told me to take it the day of or the morning after. 
Personally, I don't mind getting pregnant and having a baby now but if he is not happy then it's hard for me to be happy. I want both of us to enjoy the journey. I don't want to enjoy it alone. 😪 The reason why he is not ready is because his dream is to travel with me. We haven't done any traveling together. He wants to go to Vegas, Miami, Europe etc. I'm 22 and he's 24 so I understand and respect his wishes but now idk what to do... I feel guilty for not taking Plan B earlier and I feel bad this his dreams are gone because of having a child. A child is MY dream and traveling is HIS dream. We're married but on a different page so now I feel so guilty, confused and I can't stop crying. My heart is broke for him 💔😪 I want to see him happy as well because he is the love of my life. I don't want to only accomplish my dream of being a mother and ruin his dreams by not being able to travel or accomplish his goals in life.  😭

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Don't get yourself all worked up especially since you don't even know if you are pregnant yet!  It typically takes months for a couple to conceive as long as they are both fertile.  Don't stress!!!

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Just because he isn't ready right now doesn't mean that he won't be ready soon. Your right he should have mentioned plan b sooner, taking it 3 days after won't work. in fact he shouldn't have had unprotected sex with you at all. Thats something he should have made clear from the start but its good hes said something now. Neither of you have to give up your goals. Now if he said he absolutely doesn't want kids ever, that's something you'd really have to think about because if you want kids at some point and he doesn't, thats a problem. However if hes just saying hes not ready yet, then it will be worth waiting. Your only 22 and 24, your both still so young, is there really any need to rush? Travelling first doesn't sound like a bad idea at all. Also that gives you more time to focus on each other and build on your marriage. Then when your both ready, you'll be so glad you waited and it will feel right. That's both of your goals accomplished but at the right times

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You don't even know if you're pregnant yet so you should try to relax about it

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You both need to compromise & meet in the middle.. Why don't you let him travel then maybe in 2-3 years time settle down & have a baby. Your still young so you shouldn't be rushing things

Good luck 😊

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You can't be guilty for something you didn't realize. He should have mentioned plan b earlier.

Have a heart to heart before having unprotected sex again and really hash out your plan. Sounds like there may need to be some compromise on both sides.

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Plan b should work 3 days after having sex. And could even possibly work 5 days after but not as great for sure.

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The pill won't work if it's been passed 72 hours, the more time you take the less of a chance it will work so taking it now would just be a waste of money anyways. Don't stress girl, talk to him about it. Stand your ground.

My husband doesn't want a baby?

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