Ok I moved in with with my bf who is currently my husband

I met my husband 2009 and then 2010 he got a job 10 hours away from me, I would visit him atleast once or twice a month for a week and then he convinced me that he wants us to work so bad and would like me to try and find a job in his area coz of the distance so we can be closer to each other . I moved in 2012 with him(relocated to his place) and he bought a house same year and I got traditionally married with him nothing on the paper yet due to his culture (you have to wait a while before you wedd it can go up to 20 years as I saw with his big brothers they had been traditionally married meaning the wives are not using hubby last names, no marital certificate it ended on elders negotiations and nothing more, so now my worry is....

Since he bought the house when he was my "boyfriend " at that time the beneficiary is his mom not that I am into gold digging but if something happens to him mom inlaw can chase me out coz it's technically hers and we'll be homeless with the children and for me I feel like I don't have home that is surely mine.. Yet I am paying bills with him in this house

I spoke to him about my fears and he said we must look for a house coz that one is for him mom to benefit.I feel like he's putting his mom before me, he doesn't have my back as his wife or am wrong? Greedy? Please help

And another thing that I want to understand is he'll give his mom money though things are not settled in our home I go broke to feel up the gaps. Please correct me if I am wrong, what would you do if you were on my shoes

As for tradition I discovered about the waiting period after my family surrenderd me to to his this is not the pic that my partner painted for me before I got in and honestly why can't he provide us home when he can do it for his mom? Why do I have to meet him half way to secure home for our children? Who are we to to him? Family or business partners?