my husband and his mother
My husband has anger issues that he's getting help with. His mother is SO negative. All she does is talk bad about me and it's horrible. He keeps saying she doesn't, and she's innocent. It's like he cant get past the fact that its his mother, he's in denial or something. Literally every fight we have is about her. She tells him to leave me, she says im manipulating him because im depressed and i told him sometimes i want to kill myself (yes, im getting help) she says i only say that to keep him there. She says im controlling because i was raped when i was younger. That i lied about my miscarriages, that im a horrible mother for keeping my daughter away from her.
The other day he told her something i told him in confidence. His "best friend" molested me a few years ago. She laughed and said "are you kidding me? He didnt do that. You know that." She LAUGHED.
I was in a really bad place, really depressed and i got suicidal because of it. To the point that i was hitting walls, breaking things, cutting myself, begging him not to leave me alone because i didnt want to die. She still told him to leave me because i was "crazy" and only doing it to keep him. I got help for it but now he's mad because i told him he has to choose between me and her. We tried him having a relationship with her and me having nothing to do with it and nothing changed. I know i'm wrong for giving him the ultimatum, i feel absolutely horrible for it. But i feel like its what has to be done. Im tired of fighting because of his family. Im tired of stressing. Im tired of crying and feeling worthless. I know he shouldnt have to choose, but in a way, he put himself in this because as a husband, ge should protect me and never allow them to speak like that about me. He says he wont choose because one day they will die and he will regret it, so he says if i want to leave because of it, i can. He has always been a mommys boy but this has gone too far. He cant see that everytime he talks to her, he's more angry. She gets in his head. Im 20 weeks pregnant and we are having complications due to severe stress. The doctor even told him if it doesnt stop, i could go into premature labor and the baby wont survive yet. I just feel alone. Every other part of our relationship is perfect. We have a great marriage except for that problem. Am i wrong for making him choose?
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