Will I love my baby?

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I have never liked kids, and I always thought it would be different with my own. I want to raise children with my husband, to see him be a dad, and to let my children have the same wonderful experiences I had as a child. We got pregnant on purpose, and ever since then I have had SO MUCH anxiety about whether I would love my baby. I feel like everyone on this app talks about how loved their baby is already, and I just don't really have any feelings about her yet. I feel very ambivalent, and that makes me feel like a monster. I want to feel something. I want to love her before she gets here. I don't feel bonded. I'm 32 weeks, and I desperately need someone to tell me that my hormones will burst onto the scene when I give birth and I will be in love.

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I'm not a fan of other people's children and never have been. I loved my nephews but got tired of them after a few hours and would need a break. Then we had our daughter (she's 6 yrs old now and wasn't planned). While I still get tired of other people's children, I'm always missing my kiddo when we're apart, and have found a love and patience within myself that I didn't know existed. 
When I was pregnant with her I was terrified I'd get tired of her, like I do with other children, or I'd just be the worst mom ever. It also took me a few days after birth for me to bond with her. I felt very disconnected. I think all your fears are normal especially if you're not a kid-person. But try not to obsess. I think you'll end up surprising yourself at how much you'll love your baby and how good a mom you'll be.

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I don't like kids. At all. But I love my kids more than the air I breathe. I'm actually having my 3rd son. I can't go into a store and see someone's kid without thinking "eww". Same when I go into either of my kids' schools. I'm just not a people person no matter the age. I love my kids, my family members, but outside of that, no way Jose. Just eww.

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I think you will love your child no matter what. You may not get an instant "in love" feeling when your baby is born, and that's okay. You may also go through post partum depression, which is okay as well, but it's super important to discuss this with your doctor. 
Have you mentioned your feelings to your ob or midwife? It may be completely normal feelings, but it's best to be pro active and make sure it's not something more. 
Anxiety is normal in pregnancy. This is my third baby and sometimes I wonder how I'll be able to spread the love to three children. With my second baby, I felt like she didn't like me for 4-6 months... seriously, I thought she hated me! Silly when I think back on it. But I know it was my hormones steadily getting back to normal. She's now 6 and the sweetest little girl with so much love to give.  
I was never much for other kids growing up or as a teenager. I never babysat and I don't think I ever really thought about being a mom until I was pregnant. Now that I am a mom, and have been for over ten years 🙀 I couldn't imagine life without my girls. They are my world and I am so blessed to be their momma.

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I'm so glad someone posted this. I understand this feeling completely, and also feel really worried about it. I'm glad others on here feel the same way and have bonded with their babies when they are born!

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You really never know "true love" until you become a mama! It may it you like a ton of bricks or it may come closing as you gain some confidence in the whole thing. Either way, you truly sound like your head is completly in the right place and your concerns  are beautifully honest. My advice...don't overthink it. Let nature take it course and everything will fall into place.  
One day you'll look back on to today and see and it'll be near impossible to believe you had any doubts. 😊
Sending love...💕

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You are not alone.. I dislike children.. Well not necessarily dislike them, but I'm the 'don't hand me your baby,' type. I'm 34 weeks and feel no attachment to the baby in my stomach besides the physical aspects. I'm excited for parenthood, and my baby was planned.. I'm just hoping when she comes out, I fall in love with her, and feel the attachment.. I keep referring to the baby as an "it" and family and friends keep reminding me she's a girl, I don't have to use the term "it" anymore.

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I can understand how you're feeling we are both 32 weeks! However I feel like I haven't felt that overwhelming sense of love yet, because I've literally been SO BUSY with life. I've been trying to squeeze in some lofty goals before she gets here with work, school, and organizing our home. But you know what, my gf jus had her baby boy and I went to see her and him. He was in a little swing sleeping peacefully... then he opened his little eyes and immediately looked at his mommy with so much love that I CRIED!! That's when I KNEW how much I would love her when she arrives, I'd never seen anything more beautiful. Also, every time I see birthing videos (yes I've been watching them FTM) once the baby is set on the mom I cry. So I think it will definitely kick in ❤️ even if it doesn't immediately, it will!

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I felt like I couldn't love my first son before he was born, but I totally fell in love the minute he was in my arms! Now to this day me and him are inseparable. He is the reason I breath and push to be greater. Just try and enjoy your pregnancy and don't worry to much you will see things will change for the better.

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When I was pregnant with my second child I wondered how on earth I would love him the same as I did my first born. Trust me, you just will❤️

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I never liked kids but always knew I wanted to be a mum. I still don't like kids but love our daughter and already love the one we're expecting. You will undoubtedly love your child.

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