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I don't know if I'm a lesbian and I'm engaged to a man

I'm 21, my fiancé (man) and I have been together for 3 years and have been living together for 2 1/2 years.

About 8 months ago I told him I was bisexual, which is something I had never told anyone before and he took it really well and didn't care at all.

I've semi recently noticed that I pretty much avoid sex at all costs unless it's with myself.. I turn dont almost every pass he makes and I feel so bad.

Recently I've been becoming friends with this girl that he used to work with. She beautiful and we have very similar personalities, and I'm ashamed to admit that every time I'm with her I'm just undeniably attracted to her.

I think about her and other women sexually 9/10 times more than my boyfriend. And it feels wrong.. I'm afraid that I might actually be gay..

I love him so much though ,he always makes me laugh, we have so much fun,and he is my best friend, and his family is the most wonderful loving family on earth that have whole heartedly accepted me into their world.

We live in an apartment a state away from his family and my mom lives near us but she the only family we have here.

We have collected all the possessions in our apartment together along with our two cats and I know splitting all of that up would be a bloody mess.

And I don't want to break up. I really don't, but Idk if I should or if I have to.. I know if I asked to experiment more with women or something he would be so hurt and I just can't picture that going well..

Do I just wait it out and hope it goes away.. Do I say something.. Do I break it all apart?

Help.

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