cervix check by S/O

So we looked it up cleaned up myself and washed his hands real good and proceeded to try this whole self check thing out. After watching tons of videos and looking at pictures he's not quite sure if it was actually the cervix he was feeling but said he got one finger in tightly and it was soft. So sad news since that'd mean I'm really not dilated or maybe a 1 max. I tried myself and can't even get up there far enough. 😂 😂 needless to say total waste of time and not recommended for those that get discouraged easily (like my so) Guess we'll just keep having intercourse and hoping I'll start dilating instead of just having contractions lol.