Do I leave..? (Long, but please read) desperate

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My dad is a wonderful person. He's always been one of my favorite people in the world. Today he told me that I need to be careful with my husband and I should leave. 
He pointed out a lot of stuff about my husband, that I hadn't put together before. It's all true though.. I just found out that I'm pregnant and my husband took off for a few days and took all the money out of our safe and out of my purse. He told me that he's coming back and I'm over reacting for being mad about it. 
But my dad said that if he left at the first sign of struggle that I shouldn't be counting on him for anything. 
My dad also pointed out how he isolates me, which is true, I had just not noticed it at the time.. I've always loved being around people, and since we started dating I've started spending less and less time around my family and friends. 
Growing up, I always knew I had a wonderful family and I always proud to be apart of it.. but my husband spends so much time telling me that my family doesn't care about me and that they manipulate me.
My dad told me that he's been keeping his mouth shut because I seemed happy, but the fact that he bailed on his pregnant wife, he couldn't keep his mouth shut any longer. 
What do I do? Everything my dad said makes sense and is true.. I feel so naïve and stupid right now.

****Update: my husband just came over for a bit and yelled at me and told me that I'm being selfish going through with this pregnancy because I'm too immature to be a mom. He also threatened to punch my dad.. My mind is spinning.. what the fuck just happened?!

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You had a fight and he took ALL of the money and left for a few days, then told you you're overreacting for being upset? THAT alone is insane and manipulative, but then he isolates you and tells you your family doesn't care about you, when you know they do? I'd be running, far and fast.

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Dad has a point. But you need to talk to your husband about these things first before maki g such a big decision. Don't mention your dad when you bring it up

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If you're in a controlling/abusive relationship, loved ones typically notice the signs long before we do. I would take it seriously. If friends and family point out stupid crap concerns I ignore it (e.g. my mom didn't like my husband at first just because he didn't make much money and drove an old car. ..ignore) but when it comes to concerns over the way they treat you,  I take that seriously. I was a domestic violence program director for 10 years before having my second son. Abusive partners often use isolation as their first tactic to begin the abuse (abuse often builds slowly over years, that's how it starts) abusers will start by saying your friends and family are manipulating you,  your friends aren't good friends or not good people, your family has issues etc. ....it's so you put all your eggs in their basket. The more your eggs are in his basket alone and you don't have other things and people in your life to fall back on, the more he can control you.  Take your father's concerns seriously and examine your relationship patterns.

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Your dad sounds like he hit a nail on the head

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I have to agree with your dad, your husband sounds controlling and like he has a possible drug problem.

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I always hate when my parents get involved but probably because I don't want to admit that they're right. They're been right about the few guys I've dated. They told me that they didn't think my baby's father would stick around. They were right. If you're even agreeing with your dad, then you already know this isn't the best situation for you.

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My dad has stayed out of every single one of my relationships, so when he spoke up about this ones father, he turned out to be correct. I'd never not trust my family's opinions.

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I agree with your dad. So sorry. Sounds like you have an awesome father and family to lean on no matter what. Do what's best for you and baby.

Do I leave..? (Long, but please read) desperate

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