Lost virginity or maybe not

Okay so I'm 16 and my BF is 17. Acouple of hours ago I was at his house and kissing and one thing led to other. I never had sex before but I did have sex toy in me. Whenever I used to insert it, i would always show spotting and it happened everytime I used it I thought maybe I'm hurting myself too much so I would stop. I was mentally and physically prepared and yes he went In with a condom but his extremely big even though he's only 17 only a part of it went it and it would hurt so bad I couldn't take it so he understood and stopped. Anyways my question is that I Ofc bled again and I'm still spotting I don't know is that like normal? How many days will it spot more. And my legs or vagina don't hurt or have a trouble walking like ppl say it does after having sex the first time🙂