horny? or aggressive?

So me and my boyfriend have been together 4 months now, and we've had sex a bunch of times, we stopped having sex for about a month but we finally decided to do it again. He is always worried about getting me pregnant so condoms are a must, and he used to let me do my own thing when I gave him a blowjob.. But this time was different..  He didn't use a condom In till I asked him to because I wanted to be safe, he was really rough and when I went to give him a blowjob he kept pushing my head( he knows I don't like that) when he was on top he would grab my wrists.. Is it because he is really horny or is this on the track of abuse and force??