Anyone else scared to death of feeling disgusting after giving birth?

Question

I am not at all putting down the amazingness and the miracle about to happen.
That said:
My husband just this last week hasn't been in the mood to be intimate. This really shouldn't freak me out because we have a very healthy sex life and even through this pregnancy have had sex at least a few times a week if not every day. But when he said that I almost started crying because I feel so pressured to get as much of this time in before the baby comes.
I was trying to explain and I said that I just really want to feel attractive to him before I have a child attached to my boob all day and night, a swollen and saggy stomach, and a unrecognizable vagina that can't be touched for six weeks. 
I have an amazing husband who loves me very much and I know a lot of this comes from being a first time mom and listening to all the horror stories about how ugly other women have felt after giving birth.
Has any other second, third, etc time moms felt beautiful after giving birth or even have anything that helped them through this time?

Answer

I'll be honest. After having my son, and taking a long hard look in the mirror a day postpartum, I was disgusted and didn't recognize myself. It was like an out of body experience. My doctor gently reminded me that it takes lots of time for your body to heal, and it did end up taking 11 months to be back to normal.

The one thing I noticed with me and my husband was this raw and extreme bond we developed through labor, delivery, and life with a newborn. My husband and my doctor caught my son, he helped me into my first shower while I cried from being in so much pain, and he still thought I was the most beautiful thing on the planet after seeing the gore, my postpartum body, and every other unpleasant part of birth. There's no better love than that. No sex comes close to that kind of love. Hope that puts your mind at ease. ❤️

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FTM and while I'm ecstatic to finally be pregnant, I do not like the visuals (veins on chest, can't see my feet, huge boobs, etc) whenever I look at myself naked in the mirror. I just avoid it and have been doing my hair & makeup as much as possible so I still feel pretty. We're going to try right away for a second so if it works, bye bye body for the next 3+ years 😬

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There is a podcast you should listen to called the Longest Shortest Time. Google it and look for some episodes about sex and intimacy. Everyone is different so I don't have any advice except to say that life is long and this time is short. The best thing you can do is keep your sense of humor and connection with your partner even if penetrative sex takes a break for a while. Good luck!

Anyone else scared to death of feeling disgusting after giving birth?

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