Husbands misbehaved dog goes missing the same day he trashes the house...m
Now I've kept out of contact with my husband as we are separated to file for divorce. I did live with my husband for nearly 5 months to try work things out but he is basically a narcissist and was emotionally abusive to me and didn't admit to me or himself what he put me through , all while I was pregnant too.
Now there is a story I did post on here about him buying a puppy for $60 on his birthday which is 14th June, without my permission. He just pulled up in the car with me in it, saw the puppy .. Handed the dog over to me and went into the house to "discuss the dog". He came out with his cage and belongings and told me that we now owned him.
What annoyed me was the fact that he didn't tell me that this was his idea and I do love dogs but we had only just got our own place, one we didn't even have furniture for ! All we had was a small tv resting on one of his work boxes with 2 fold up chairs as our "temporary sofa" and a mattress on the floor. That was it !
Now.....
I did ask numerous of times the logical questions of has the dog been vaccinated against everything ? He told me he didn't know, I asked him its important to find it out cause if he gets sick it would be really bad. He got more and more annoyed when I asked and said it shouldn't be my concern because the dog isn't mine it's his.
The dog then got parvo a month later and he was really ill with it too, we took him straight to the vets where it became apparent that this puppy wasn't vaccinated. The cost of treatment as well as hospitalisation for this puppy was $800.
At the time I was working on filing visas to stay legally on the US as I'm from the UK so I could stay and be a family without worrying about being deported while I'm pregnant or even after I gave birth. The cost for the visa was an estimate of $950..
I was surprised at the cost of treatment and said it in a none bitchy way "that's a lot of money, nearly as much as a visa". My husband flipped. He raged out and walked over to me aggressively saying "I can't be putting up with your shit" then smashed my water bottle to the ground with great force and when I cried he told me to get out.
He lied and told me he had a friend in the army who is a vet and can treat the puppy for less money, I believed him. He told the vet this too and he signed the forms to say he knows the risks of not getting the dog treated.
He didn't get the dog treated and left him there with a bowl of food and water and told me not to worry as he had everything sorted. When I told him how serious this illness was he shrugged it off and would get defensive and scary. I couldn't ring anyone as my phone didn't work.. He literally had control over everything.
LUCKILY.. And god knows how but the dog survived and made a full recovery.
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Now....
A couple of days ago I receive two pictures of the place I once lived at, it was trashed. The whole kitchen/ living room area was a right mess. I asked what happened and my husband said because the dog had been good he left him in the house alone and came back to see he had trashed the place. Then said he gave him a good beaten. Normally when he said that, at least when I was there he would hit the dog once or twice and let him outside. I didn't like how he treated the dog and I am not responsible for any of this.
I gave him tips of how to train the dog not to chew up things and suggested that he puts the dog in his own room as he used to, when he is out of the house.
Hours later I get another message saying "I'm pretty sure someone has stole the dog". I told him to elaborate more and he basically explained that after having to clean the mess up that the dog made, he kept the dog outside all day ( he didn't tell me this before ). He then came home from work and the dog is gone, with the leash... Everything.
Now annoyingly he didn't get the dog chipped when I said he should, he said the dog didn't have a collar on. He swore to me he had searched the area and asked neighbours if they'd seen him but they claimed they didn't and he still hasn't shown up.
I was generally upset and told him to ring the local vets or put up missing signs and he was like no not yet its too soon I'll just wait for him to come back.
I have a really bad gut feeling about this. Its unnerving
I don't want to be involved as its not my dog, I don't live in America no more but... Should I help ? Is there anything I can do?
Please reply I would really really appreciate it.
I don't want haters on my back saying I'm a coward for allowing any of this to happen because my husband was abusive towards me and was scary. He would take my phone off me and I had no money to go anywhere. All on this foreign country.
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