Hating on our sex life

Don't get me wrong- I love our sex. When we have it. But we only ever seem to have sex when my boyfriend wants it. Whenever I want it hes usually too tired or I have to explicitly say to him that that's what I want. Then I usually don't want it because I feel like he doesn't want to do it. No matter how much I try to initiate things it NEVER happens.

Just hate going to sleep when I have that itch, and I never seem to be able to scratch it myself. Just never feels right.

I have spoken to him about it and he always says its because he doesn't think I want it which is absolute bollocks. He knows our sex drives are pretty evenly matched so I hate that he uses that as his reason. Every. Single. Time. I ask. 😔