Healthy hubby??

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I am trying to get my husband on board with kissing weight and quitting smoking to help our chances of TTC. He has been upset for a long time about his weight and smoking but never comits to doing anything about it. He gets irritated whenever I bring it up (no matter how I say it it seems) and shoots me down when I ask him if we can go for a walk or things like this. Please help

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Quitting smoking AND losing weight dont really go together. I quit smoking cold turkey 2 years ago and gained almost 40lbs. (I lost it all the following year by controlling my diet). My husband continued smoking and it was really impacting our relationship because I couldn't stand how he smelled, didn't want to kiss him, etc. He tried Chantix twice but could only quit while he was taking the meds. Finally, this year he found the eCigarettes and has been vaping only. He has dropped his nicotine level to 6 now, and hopes he can get to zero eventually. I don't mind it that much because most of the juices he uses actually smell pretty good and it's not that harmful for him anymore.
​He needs to lose weight also, but I haven't found a solution for that yet.

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I found that my husband was really defensive when I brought up this topic as he felt less attractive and "less of a man".  But by making it fun and both of us doing it together, it seems to help.  I had to have a tough conversation where I told him how much I love him and how I worry about him. 
​He also smoked after I quit and I basically told him how bad he smelled all the time and wouldn't let him come to bed without brushing his teeth and washing his hands. Luckily that didn't backfire and he quit lol.

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I disguised mine and said I want more time to talk without distractions so we have been taking walks. Every little bit helps.

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I disagree that you gain weight when you quit smoking. I quit long ago and made sure to use exercise and drinking water to curb ceavings and I actually ended up getting in better shape. I found it was easier to do things like work once I started quitting. Thanks for the advice from everyone though! We had a really good talk and we have talked to our doctor a few times since I posted so he is on his way to quitting (has cut back quite a bit already). We set a goal that he will be quit by our next appointment in a month and a half so we can tell the doctor good news. As for the working out we found a few activities such as soft ball and a few other sports we are going to play together frequently (even joined a league) to keep us encouraged to stay active and loose weight. Hoping hat it helps on our way to TTC as having something else to concentrate on will be a good distraction. The ultimate goal we Set for him to be off of his pills for his diabetes so we will see how it goes.

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They say sex is better then going gym so guess if he don't like walking always that you can make him do that. :-) You gain weight when you stop smoking so that's not going to help with his weight and you have one mardy husband for awhile I would just try to burn calories the fun way.. When I mentioned to my partner his was getting a beer belly we started the gym together it was more fun together then him going on his own

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My husband smokes, he doesn't think it effects his health because "he has a 6 pack". He also eats horribly, drinks like 6 cans of soda, he will eat and entire box of twinkies in one day if I let him. He gets mad because I only buy healthy food. But a few months ago a he cut back smoking a lot and I got pregnant not sure if that was the cause or not. He is back to smoking about a pack a day, but now that I am pregnant he isn't allowed to smoke in the car hehe.

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I've been married for four years and my husband finally quit smoking four months ago. I had been a light smoker (going on and off during stress) but I'd quit for good 8 months ago. I'd dropped the notion of him quitting smoking last year. I stopped bringing it up after many conversations of why he should: I don't want him to die, he should live as long as he can if we have children, and children of smokers are more likely to smoke. I gave up, and on a random day in January he told me he'd quit. Cold turkey. The first week was hard (he was like 2 packs a day) and he was pretty sick. But I supported him and made sure to have lots of tooth picks on hand.
​He's now going to join a gym to lose weight he told me, no coaxing at all.
​Long and short of it: say what you need to and move on. He needs to quit for himself and sometimes people push back when they feel pressure to do something. Good luck!

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I really don't know if is true that him quiting helps increase the chance(correct me if iam wrong:/) because my husband is a smoker (don't applause him for it:/) but he has been smoking for over 12 years and we conceived pretty fast(first month trying). But I know the feeling, tryna have him quit:/.... So It didn't affect us from trying at all.! And he has been smoking for a LONG time.! Lol

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My wife recently asked me to quit cigar smoking in an effort to improve our chances. I'm not completely sure that it is the magic bullet but I'm a team player. The bigger concern for us is the biological clock since my wife is past 40.

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You are a good partner for being concerned and asking for advice! My hubs complained about his weight for years and was insecure about it. He made the decision to use our stationary bike every morning and even played video games on it! Once he started to see results, he added MyFitnessPal and tracked his calories. He lost 50 pounds in about one year and he looks so great! His confidence is higher and he's limited his alcohol consumption too. I also joined MyFitnessPal and we are partners on it so we can support each other. It's. A really great tool. Good luck!

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