asking for advice!

Currently leaving with ant who is so needy with help in babysitting andfinancially for  her 5 kids her and her husband divorced... we work opposite schedules so she can watch my 15mo old for me and I watch her kids the days she works.i pay her about $500 a month or if she asks for money... I am in long distance relationship for 3 years with my husband I am currently working on sponsoring him to com....in the other hand my dad leaves in another state he is diabetic and alone his wife and 8 children abandoned him he leaves alone and very depressed I want to go to him as his daughter and take  care of him but I don't know what to do....I am working I am working and never save a dime I don't know where my money is going I am not renting I leave with my aunt as I said she is so needy and I can't refuse...but I am afraid if I go to my dad I won't find job or childcare or I can't afford or the process for my husband will get messed up...I know I am vey emotionally everywhere I hope u can advise me....thanks eve girls I seen wonderful lady's give wonderful advice😔