does anybody else relate or can give advice?

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Okay I just wanna let it out there. I am 19 years old and I am the biggest virgin of all time. Like literally. No sex what so ever. Never had a boyfriend. Not even a first kiss or hand holding. NADA! And getting fatter these past years only makes it worse 😕 I really wanna change my weight and lifestyle in hopes for someone to at least have a crush on me, even though I know looks shouldn't be important but let's face it, looks attract people. I really am fricken fat though so I def need to loose weight lol. And not to sound conceited but I honestly think I am pretty. I know im not ugly or hot but I know for a fact that I am pretty, just that I am very over weight. I just wanted to let this out hoping I'm not the only one who's in this situation. Like I know sex and having boyfriends is probably not a big deal but I feel like I am missing out and I can't relate about anything with my friends and people my age. Everyone is fit, skinny, healthy, has sex, has partners/ exes. I can't relate what so ever. I just want someone to talk to about all this. The last time I checked my weight a few months after I graduated HS last year I was 273 lbs. and I know I gained weight. I definetly do not want to reach 300 lbs. Any advice on how to get motivation to lose weight or workout? Advice on why I feel like this about relationships or just words to comfort me. Sorry for being to detailed but I honestly don't have anyone to talk to about all this and there's plenty of beautiful, smart women on here with great advice. Thank you all for reading.

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I agree with what Jas said! 
Just try to be as healthy as you can with what you eat, and be as active as possible. Start small and then make daily/weekly/monthly goals. If you have an iPhone you can track your steps with the ihealth app or whatever it's called. Or even if you just download the Fitbit app, it's supposed to count your steps based on your phone.

If you truly want to make a change you have to put in the work for it! I believe in you :)

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Girl, you're not missing out. Trust me. I wish I would've waited to get involved with guys, because they're usually nothing but trouble. I wish I would've at least been almost graduated from college first. You're beautiful, and I've seen girls way bigger than you get guys. I don't think it's about your weight. I think maybe it's more about how you present yourself. Maybe guys don't feel comfortable talking to you. I know I have the issue of not knowing when a guy likes me or not. That's usually why I miss out. 🙄 I'm just dumb in that department. 😂 If you do want to lose weight, lose it for you. Don't lose it to get a boyfriend, because if you're not doing it for yourself, you won't get the same results. Which, I think you should try doing something like dancing to lose weight, because if you're like me, you suck at working out just because you won't make time for it. With dancing, you can just do it pretty much anywhere at any time, and you're good. Also, I like to just try moving a lot when I do things, folding clothes, washing dishes, etc. Going on long walks through woods and stuff like that always worked for me too. Running is hard for me, because I have lung trouble. The thought of running made me cancel everytime, but when I'm walking, I just daydream and listen to music. I can walk forever that way. In my experience, having a partner to work out with can help A LOT too. That way you won't get bored or put it off. Also, you're super pretty. I can tell from your profile picture. I was just going to throw that out there. Good luck with everything, beautiful!

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I'm 19 too and also I'm also a virgin. I had my first kiss when I was 18. I haven't had a real boyfriend up until now. I'm on the heavier side too, so don't be discouraged about not finding a guy atm. It honestly just takes time. I've recently lost a lot of weight just by completely cutting out any sugary drinks. I only drink water now and get out and walk at least 30 min a day. It's gonna suck at first but your body will adjust to the change. And if you want add more workout time as you go. I feel a lot happier with slower weight loss, but that's just me. If you wanna talk some more feel free to hmu :) always happy to help another girl out

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Honestly,it's all in your mind! Love yourself workout, eat healthier,and if you can't do this alone maybe ask a friend to go grociery shopping with you and make sure you grab healthy things get articles and or magazines on how to make healthier foods. Don't go out and eat as much,umm start with a routine. Like what do you like to do that's active? Do you like to run? Maybe dance? I don't know anything active and either take a class at the gym, take yoga,Zumba, I don't know whatever Kurt be active and honestly most of all don't put yourself dont because bein. Mad at yourself only makes matters worse. There's actually this drink I take after I workout, so I swim I've swam for more than 6 years as a competative sport and I always to XC went to state for that and anywase I workout at the gym but I take this drink that's used for people who workout but don't want to feel sore and it also helps with making you less sick and it really works. Basically it takes your bad cells in your body out and puts your good cells in. And what you do is you drink only 1/3 of the cup it comes with before you eat a meal and wait for 15 minutes then eat. And you also drink it after you workout and wake 15 minutes and I would start drinking protein shakes if your working out to contract your muscles 💪🏻 and eat this bar before you workout called access it burns fat and it actually taste like a brownie lol. 😂 but ya honestly girl hang in there you got this we all love you!!

does anybody else relate or can give advice?

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