my boyfriend is telling his family I'm pregnant and I'm only 5 weeks ?

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I'm livid. I'm only 5 weeks and 5 days and this whole pregnancy is a shock for me. I've been an emotional wreck because of hormones, knowing my life is going to dramatically change, and the nerves of telling my family(I'm only 20 & still in college) The other day he went to his Grandmothers and right before he left I told him "please don't tell her, this is too soon we need to figure everything out & I want to tell my mom first". He comes back two hours later and goes "I told her".

And today I've been in the hospital all day because my papa is dying and while I was there my bf went to his moms. Once again I told him not to tell his mom. He just called me and goes "I told my mom". I was like are you fucking kidding me and hung up.

It's just so selfish and rude. He could at least wait for me to be there??? Because next time I see them it's going to be so awkward. I'm so frustrated and hurt. He doesn't get why I'm so mad. How do I explain to him why this is not okay?

It's so hard for me because men don't understand or go through what us women go through. Yes his life will change but mine will change more & he doesn't seem to understand that. I feel like as the woman & the one carrying the baby, I should be the one to decide when to tell people. I literally just want to cry

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He's excited. Let him be.

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He's going to be a father! It's VERY selfish and rude of you to tell him that he can't tell anyone. It's no longer just up to you. You both are the parents and if he wants to tell his family he has every right in the world.

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I get where you are coming from, I just think he is really excited. My fiancé was the same way I wanted to wait to tell people and he went and literally told everyone he works with the next day it made me mad but I could tell he was just excited. I ended up miscarrying at 13 weeks his work was really understanding and let his have a few days off to help me, with our next pregnancy he was a lot more cautious. Maybe you should just explain to him why you want to wait to tell people hopefully he will be understanding and respect your wishes

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I feel your pain. My husband told his side without me and when i saw them, it was awkward and they didnt even say congrats. He sounds immature and selfish. Definitely tell him how upset you are.

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I understand. My mom went and sent out a group text to family not soon after I just experienced bleeding. Come to find out some of the ppl on the group text already knew cuz of her! I was more disappointed she didn't at least ask my permission first! I was very irritated! I know she was excited but I told her that the midwife still wanted me to go through testing. All I care about now is making sure my baby still has s beating heart and she is making announcements I wanted to announce first! I felt like she stole that away from me for her own excitement. I know your man is excited but it sounds one you are really struggling with this pregnancy and he should be more empathetic. Ppl just assume it should be all roses and candy and everyone should know. But it is up to you!

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I told my bf not to tell anyone when we found out. Why? Because i wasn't sure i wanted to keep it. I think you have every right to ask him not tell people until you've sorted everything out. I think if he cared enough, he couldve kept it to himself for another week, especially if you haven't told your mum yet.

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He's excited, and it's his baby too. I understand being mad especially since it sounds like you asked him not to tell people yet. Sorry :/

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He's excited!!!   His family won't tell your family, so you can still keep it a secret until you are ready to tell your family!

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I get how you feel, but at the same time it is just as much his child as it is yours. My fiance told his band member not even 30 minutes after we found out so I get it, but it's his choice as well. 
Your life doesn't change more than his. It's a baby. It's your baby and his baby. Hopefully both of you will put in the same amount of work. You need to try to relax and see where he's coming from as well. He's probably excited and scared and feels like he's going to explode. He probably just needed someone to talk to, which is completely understandable. Try not to be too angry with him.

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I think maybe your just emotional right now. Yes you have the right to tell people but he does too. He just seems really excited. Just talk to him calmly about how you feel and tell him that you want to wait until you tell your mom before she finds out from someone else. To give you some time and to please not to tell anyone else right now. See what he says. Try not to let your hormones do the talking. You may be scared right now but in time you will be just as excited.

my boyfriend is telling his family I'm pregnant and I'm only 5 weeks ?

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