...I'm tired...
A relationship is hard work. It's not the commitment that I'm struggling with, it's my partner himself. I hate that I have to tell him to do everything. I hate having to beg, nag, push, shove, ask, remind him to complete his priorities (or to be fair what I think is his priority e.g. Parental contract, convos with his ex regarding their child, researching legalized parental plans, letting other women know the boundaries when they're clearly being inappropriate to the point that he feels uncomfortable and questions their intention and such). I would like for him to get his priorities done without me telling him to so that it seems like it's actually important to him not just to me.
I have never met a man like that...I'm used to men doing what they say they'd do. Making plans and following through with them not letting me down over and over again.
We've talked marriage, we've talked saving (over 6 months ago with no progress) for it but I honestly have no faith in him to follow through with anything. Smaller things such as what I mentioned above he has shown that he is unable to follow through with so what makes me think that he would follow through with bigger plans such as marriage and saving?
I view marriage as going into business with someone in a way. That requires following through with your plans otherwise things fall apart...
I do not think this is a good quality or characteristic to have. He's 27 for gods sake! Why?! Is this something I can be patient about and he'd change? Or is this something I need to leave alone and move on with my life because it wouldn't change?
He always apologizes when I talk to him about it and says he hates letting me down and disappointing me but that's been said too many times with no change. Any advice?
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