My baby is 6 months old 🙂 her grandparents on her dads side (also my husband, we are still together) live just up the road from us, they both don't work and are fit enough to look after other grandchildren and go on massive walks so these aren't old people they are in their 40's. they don't text or ring or ask how their grand daughter is they don't offer to help when my husband works away 6 days a week, I always text them to see if they are busy so I can come up for a visit but I either don't get a text back or they say they are busy. The only way they see us is if we turn up unannounced and they're just watching TV. When we do get a phone call or text they never say they are missing my daughter or asking what new things she can do,then when they do see her they over fuss her which my daughter doesn't like because she's doesn't even know these people properly! They only want to see my daughter if we leave her with them which we obviously aren't going to do because they don't know anything about her routine or anything! I'm in 2 minds either make as much effort with them as they do with us (which is 0) or try my best to see them as much as possible ??!!!😫