crazy family! HELP!!!! 😰

I just don't know what to think anymore I'm in my head about this and I just want to hear yalls perspective on this cuz I'm sure I'm not the crazy one here- but I'm losing my mind with my immediate family!!

Here's a little background on everyone inside my mom&dads house-

They live in a tiny two bedroom bird house- can't even call it a house- probably 1000sq ft total- a total of 7 people that live there- my oldest brother- his baby mama(they're not even together) their little baby girl (11m) my sister(16) little brother (14) and then both my parents! My sister and younger brother share a room upstairs and brother, baby mama and baby share the master bedroom- my mom ends up sleeping in the living room on the couch and dad sleeps on the floor with my siblings upstairs. Now the reason they live like peasants is because my older brothers drug addiction got my parents about 60k deep in debt- and then the baby (I love her to death) 

My parents are enablers and all this could have been prevented from the day it started if they would would of done something about it! My mom has a spending problem! She likes to look like she lives lavishly/ eyelashes/nails/ expensive skincare/ hair done/ etc... my dad works like a horse and never sees the money he makes because he supports every single child in that house- my mom works day and night too- and never sees the money either- always pay check to paycheck after all said and done...brothers baby mama cheated on him and got pregnant by someone els...also did I mentioned she hates her baby and neglects her- said she doesn't want her and hates being a mom- she sleeps till 5 pm then tans- then gym then she goes to work for about three hours and repeat every day- my sister is being forced into homeschool to watch the baby that isn't taken care of by her dad or mom- my sister loves the baby and the baby started calling my sister her momma- I try and try to tell my brother to get help get clean get a job take responsibility and his only response ever "are you crazy? I can't get a job I'm a drug addict- no one will hire me I can't pass a drug test" I tell him to man up deal with withdrawals for a couple weeks and fight it! His response "it's too hard! It's too painful" he watches movies all day- takes out my parents cars begs for money on the street and then pays for more drugs this way- it's gotten so bad where he openly asks my parents literally "I need the car- I'm getting withdrawals and I need to go get drugs" the keys are handed over and he comes back and smokes the crack on the kitchen around the baby! My mom calls me all the time complaining about how exhausted she is if the whole situation and how she would rather just die- then I ask her what she is doing about it she simply says "I hate living in awkwardness and I'd rather not confront them" well that makes me livid because I have turned into the bad guy! I have confronted everyone in that family over and over and they threatened to get a restraining order against me lol (brother and baby momma) I came over one day and just was like wtf! Went off on my brother and baby momma and everyone! WHY IS EVERYONE STILL LETTING THIS GO ON!! my brother dropped the baby into her crib cuz she wouldn't stop crying and my lil sis upstairs calls me to tell me how scared she was for the baby- I tell her to hang up the phone and call 911-!! Simply wouldn't cuz she "did not have the balls" then my husband and I decided we just had to take the baby away- we both are obsessed with her since day one! We were ready to start the long and expensive adoption process- my parents agreed then EVERYONE turned on us because they wanted us to "but out the baby" from her birth parents giving my brother the drug addict two thousand dollars and the baby momma 2k as well- my husband got pissed and just could not keep this going he stopped communicating with my family- (on our wedding night- out of town- my brother dropped my siblings off and the baby to us in our hotel room and sped off) we ended up not sleeping till 6am we drive two hours to take the kids home and two hours back to our hotel room) just painting a picture of how much of pieces of shit they are- 

Anyway- my parents do not encourage brother to get help- they think he isn't too bad- they still allow baby momma to live there she doesn't even pay for rent- and everyone kind of just does whatever they please- both my parents have asked to borrow large amounts of money and we've said no- each time we did my mother just cried "you don't care about us you don't love us- we have no where els to go for this" and then they stop talking to me for a while....I live two hours away- and they call me for all kinds of help all the time....help with documents online- help with calling places- it's sooooo difficult- it's like sending me into battle with a rubber dildo! I have no idea how to answer their personal questions and have no idea what the hell im even calling about.... my sister is the babies caretaker and it breaks my heart! She's a full time high school student- part time online college student and a full time mom- absolutely! I have started to distance myself from my family because it angers me- I can't help- when I try I get threatened- my husband and I are the bad guys- and instead of being happy for us and for our successes they look down on us because we don't help them pay their bills- it's breaks my heart because every time we purchase something exciting like a new couch- or I finish decorating a bedroom I've been working on so long- or we finally get a new car that we've been saving for for ages- I can't ever send pictures or share it with my family because they do not give a Shit- and if I do share something they say "you have the money to do this for yourself but when we asked for help you couldn't help?" Like grrrrrr!!!!! Your adults!!! You should have figured this out long time ago!! Let me and my husband build a life together!!!  Makes me cry and just hurts!! Right now my mother called me because she can't figure out how to check her credit scores on credit karma...she asked me to do it for her. I said no because I truly am busy and it's difficult because I don't know her information- she yelled at me saying "IS IT SO HARD FOR YOU TO HELP FOR 5 MINUTES!!!" I told her I would check it out and looked into it- told her she had to get all that info in and follow the steps and she said she did but step three returns her to step two because she doesn't know about some loan in 2012- I told her to call customer care and she asked me to call for her...I said no....she yelled and hung up...... please tell me whoever read this essay....AM I WRONG FOR FEELING USED AND. UPSET?!!!😞