Maybe out of anger, or fear, or just plain pettiness, he said "You don't even have your own life together, how on earth do you think you'll be a good mom? You won't be. This is a terrible idea."

I stayed strong during that meeting, but when I got home, I cried so much at that. I'm 24 years old, I have a great job, I have an amazing support system, I have done nothing without my baby in mind for the last three months, and i personally think I will be a great mom. Just because I am a silly goofy fun person, doesn't mean I don't know how to be responsible. Sure, I didn't act "motherly" before, but I wasn't someone's mom before.

Anyway, it's been 3 months since we had that meeting, I'm 19w2d, and I just had a moment to sit and think about what he said then and how I feel now. I think if he said that today, I'd laugh in his face. I'm not going to be a perfect mother because no one will. But I am confident that I will strive in everything I do to be a great and loving mother to my precious little girl without a single bit of help from him. My amazing and supportive family is a big factor in helping me feel confident about my child's future, but really the biggest change since then has been my personal attitude. I didn't become a better person, I just started to believe in myself, and know I always WAS capable of doing this.

All that to say, if your baby daddy is being a jerk, don't let his inability to see your potential stop you from seeing it. Mommas, you got this!!! WE can do this!!