Since day one of meeting my SO's family, I have not liked them(his parents and sister mostly)..They are bat sh*t crazy, manipulative, judgmental, hurtful, spiteful,they fight  constantly-with both physical and verbal abuse   ...The first day I met my mother in law and she heard my last name she asked me with a look of horror on her face "Oh dear God, you aren't Italian are you?"...That's just a small taste of the horrible things she has said to me. I have been settling and dealing with their behavior for 10 years now, never speaking up agaisnt them. I've sat here taking the abuse and at times my two children have suffered because of their dysfunctional ways. I am now pregnant with my third child..This is by far my most emotional pregnancy and I hold back nothing. For this reason, I have chosen to keep my distance from the inlaw's. Out of respect for my husband, I do not want to say/do anything to any of them when they have pushed me to far. As a result, they are now on my case for not bringing my children around-it's been about two months since we have seen them. They give my husband constant grief and headaches with their nagging and have been verbally bashing me and now things have been said about my children by my sister inlaw. I am at my wits end :( I just don't know how to keep peace with them,  yet save myself during this delicate time from them.