so much drama 😭🙄 band vs boyfriend

Ok so I'm 15, and I sing in a metal band and our guitarist is a bit of a dictator . Only he treats me a little differently . He gets too involved in my life outside of the band and always sexualizes me and basically thinks my singing skills don't matter, as long as I look hot😂 on the other hand, I have an INSANE boyfriend . These two boys have been basically controlling my entire life for the last year. Crispy, my boyfriend constantly accuses me of being in love with Cooper, the guitarist and YELLS at me all the time for it. It's so uncalled for. And Cooper constantly threatens to kick me out of the band and shit if I don't leave Crispy eventually.  They  hate each others guts, don't speak anymore,  and use me as their messenger to each other .   I know this all sounds so stupid but guys this is really damaging , emotionally to me because all I'm trying to do is keep these two boys happy and I always fall short 😢