Am I overreacting about this? Or should I think about some things?

Question

So earlier this week I went to the doctors and I found out that I gained 20 pounds over the past year mainly because I've been in a relationship. So I told my boyfriend and at first he seemed supportive of the fact that I'm going on a strict diet. So I met up with my boyfriend at his job at lunch and we were having a good time and all of a sudden he starts bringing up my weight and saying how 20 pounds is unhealthy and I'm telling him that Im already back to my workout regimes and my diet. Mind you he isn't in the best shape himself. As I'm eating I'm really feeling like he's ashamed of me that I gained so much weight and he's telling me that I look fine and it doesn't look like I gained any weight but then a minute later he starts jiggling my arm fat and he's like damnnn and of course I'm in my feelings cause I gained so much weight and he's telling me to lighten up and that I'm overreacting and that I'm making him feel like the bad person. So he's pissed. And I'm trying to tell him that I'm so hard on myself and disappointed because 2 years ago I had a eating disorder and that I would work so hard at losing weight that I wouldn't eat anything. And he starts mocking that I had it and saying it's impossible that I had an eating disorder cause I would still have it til this day. So now I'm conflicted am I in the wrong here? Or do I have the right to be upset?

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Hes being such a disrespectful asshole 😤 thats so rude omg. Don't ever feel bad about yourself, at least you're not a dick like that 😒

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You have every right to be upset. The biggest issue with communication in couples is they have a hard time seeing how you feel from your point of view. My boyfriend thinks teasing or joking about what is bothering me will make it better because thats what makes him feel better. He just needs to laugh it off but his teasing and joking makes me feel like shite. The only thing that you can do is tell him it hurts you when he teases or jokes about it and that it makes it harder. Ill bet its ot his intention but the delivery sucks. Its okay to feel how you feel.

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He needs to get his head out of his ass and understand some things. Yes you can and did get rid of that eating disorder. It's a mental thing. It can be trained out of you. 2 if he knows you are sensitive about your weight he needs to be supporting you and not making stupid little Comments. But think this way. Some guys don't realize they are being rude. They are just trying to lighten the mood. Yeah he goes the wrong way about it but he probably thinks he's trying to make you feel better by mentioning it and joking about it. Some men don't understand how we women understand. Just sit him down. And calmly talk through all of this tell him what makes you feel uncomfortable and what makes you feel better and what would help you to get through this. He needs to realize you tell him these things cause you trust him and you expected better of him for it. Please try to stay calm about it when you talk so he doesn't think you are being overly sensitive and just overreacting. I don't think you are over reacting. He just needs to see things through your perspective.

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He's playing on your insecurities. Perhaps it's time to find a man that knows better than to "joke" about a very big struggle in your life. In no way is that okay and I don't see how it can be justified. Just my 2 cents!

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Girl I know how you feel. My bf has said this to me before. Mind you he is more overweight/heavier than me. I was so offended and now don't ask his opinion I do me and he does himself. I told him I concerned about his health not weight. I'm a healthy weight just want to be more fit.

Am I overreacting about this? Or should I think about some things?

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