(long) need advice , I don't know what to do.

Courtney
My husband and I have been married for a year, and ever since he got back from MOS school he's been really weird. We got married May 6th and have been having problems ever since that night. I've asked him multiple times if he just settled and he said no. He says he loves me. So the problem is I "ask for sex too often" I'm "too horny." And the reason I ask is because 9/10 times he tells me he's too tired or he says he has to pee. Something. This has been happening for a year. I asked him about maybe he wasn't attracted to me anymore, he said it wasn't the problem. "Maybe it's your sex toy," he still said no. Most of the time I feel like I'm forcing him to have sex with me so that makes it hard for me to get into it when he agrees. We argue all the time because I'm constantly frustrated with his lack of attention. He doesn't know me well enough after four years to pick my favorite
Drink for Valentine's Day from Starbucks yet I tell him every time we go. I feel like I'm just nitpicking but it feels to me like he doesn't even care anymore. That he hasn't for a while. I've always felt
Like he just settled for me because he thought no one else would want him. I was his first everything. He used to get upset at me for bein on my phone , when I stopped doing it (for him) he started playing games on his and ignoring me while playing video games. He has a job where he gets super dirty and I've told him please don't hug me when you're dirty I just got out of the shower. He still does it. (He's greasy and covered in dirt because he's a mechanic). I'm weird about that stuff and maybe everything. Maybe I'm just a bitch. Idk what should I do?? Sorry for the rant. I'm stressed 😞