So Im 37+4, my MIL will be here for the birth. It's just gonna be my husband and his mom in the room(and of course the doctors and nurses). That's it!

As far as people coming to visit us after the baby is born. I was really wanting it to just be me, baby, and my hubs for a little bit before people start trying to come around. But already, his uncle, nieces are coming to visit us,(I'm guessing after baby is born? my husband didnt think to get an exact date from them when they first told him), then his grandmother and her new husband are coming (as a surprise, we weren't supposed to know😐). We have over 10 friends/neighbors, and friends flying up and driving up that want to sit in the waiting room for us at the hospital.. I already feel myself drowning in too much company as I'm trying get to learn to being a FTM and my husband wants to tell me "Oh, it'll be fine. We will figure it out." NO M****f****er! This is not really 'fine.'

How many people are gonna want to take my baby from me to hold her? (Who haven't gotten their tdap shots?)

How long do they plan on sticking around?

Are they just here for visiting?

Are they here to help me?

I'm sorry!!! I don't want them at my house if all their here for is to see my baby and hold her and get in her face and stimulate her too much from handling. All she's gonna want to do is eat, sleep, and poop! And probably end up SICK Because of so many people being around! 😢

Now. I love my MIL and I have an amazing relationship with her, like I do with my own mother. I feel like I'm gonna need to talk to her about who all is coming and when, because people are only going through my husband and he's just telling them yeah it's fine when obviously I'm not. And i feel he's dismissing my feelings on this. And I also can't help but feel like my OWN MOM chose not to come to her first granddaughters birth because she knows im going to want to have time to myself with my baby, but also probably because she knew(or had a feeling) family was gonna try and come on my husbands side... Which really breaks my heart.

How do I handle this?

I can I explain to my mother in law and my husband that I'm not OK with already so many people trying to show up?? I wasn't even OK with how many people wanted to sit around waiting on us in the waiting room.. but again everyone is asking my husband. Not me! I really thought I had made it clear to my husband more then anything I wanted it to just be us!!! For a while! To grow and learn with our daughter our new schedules as parents.

I don't want to make people upset or mad but I feel like that's probably what's gonna happen anyway..