Baby Shower On Mother's Day? Detailed Story

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Hey guys so recently I've been planning to have my baby shower on May 14 and this whole time i didn't know it was Mother's Day until today. This is my first baby and my family's first Grand baby on both sides of the family. My SO family is from another country and his mother is coming up in the middle of May to apply for citizenship and then going back to finish more paperwork. So I'm trying to plan a baby shower with her in mind since my SO is an only child and this is both our first child. I don't want her to miss the baby shower so i planned it for the 21st of May. One of my close friends booked a cruise so i thought oh well I'll just move it to the 28. Then his mother tells me she's leaving at the end of May and she won't be able to attend. So then i moved it to May 14. Then two of my friend start complaining about how it's mother's day and ppl wanna do stuff with their mom. In my mind Im like ok why don't u just do mothers day the day before or in the morning of mothers day since i want an evening baby shower. Then my first friend says oh my cruise is from the 13th to the 21st just do it on May 13. I told her flat out no. I work on Saturdays and I'm on probation for 90 days cuz i just got this job and i can't take any days off and everybody works on Saturdays. I can't plan my baby shower on a Saturday i have to do it on a Sunday cuz the store doesn't even open on Sundays. I don't want to do it on the first Sunday of May cuz i don't think his mother is gonna be here yet and i can't do it on the last Sunday of May cuz she might not even be there. So now I'm torn cuz i had May 14 set in stone not even knowing it was Mother's day and part of me still feels like booking the hall on that day anyway cuz i don't want his mother to miss out on her son's first child s baby shower. So I'm really stuck and idk what to do. Either way my friend is assed out and I'm annoyed that she told me that my MIL should have better planned her days coming to America when she has been planning these days for her citizenship since before i got pregnant and didn't even tell me she'll be up here until i was 3 months. It was my idea to plan the baby shower on a day that she was here because it will be my first time seeing her in person and getting to hang out with her. Idk i need advice please vote and leave comments cuz planning thisbaby shower is stressing me out and I'm due June 13. 😥😥😥😥

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I think if you do it on Mother's Day very few people will attend. I wouldn't go to a baby shower on a Mother's Day. And if you have friends who work retail or in restaurants they won't go anyways because they will have to work. Mother's Day is one of the biggest retail days of the year.

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I think it's more important to make sure your mil can be included than your friend, personally. Your friend should understand. And I don't think it's a good idea to do it on Mother's Day. People will have other plans and not be able to make it.

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Do it the day your mil will be able to attend. If your friends can't go then don't worry. It's your mil first grand baby she should be there. That's my thought.

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One thing I've learned from planning certain events, my wedding most of all, is to never move my/ our date to accommodate someone else. The only exception being immediate family, and even then my brother is pretty flaky so we just set a date and he would have to come to it. Obviously a shower isn't a wedding, but if it's important to your friends then they will make the time. If they really can't they'll let you know right away and hopefully will still buy you a gift 😉 choose what works for your and your parents (and maybe your best friend if you know 100% she can make a diff date that's also good for you and your parents).

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You should do the date that works best for you. And I totally understand wanting your mother & MIL there but at the same time respect that it is Mother's Day & that maybe a reason that some of your friends or family won't be there. For me I think it depends on the relationship I have with the mom to be if I would attend a shower on Mother's Day. Being a mom myself I want to be with my own kids & family.

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Mother's Day is kind of a terrible day to plan a shower. You're asking people to choose between you and their mothers and/or kids, and you're going to have a lot of people not show up. That being said, choose a date your MIL can go, but if one friend can't attend, then oh well. You can't please everyone.

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I wouldnt do it on mothers day... but no offense to your friend, if she booked a cruise and wont be around then too bad. Don't change your event because you're interfering with THEIR schedules. Its your day! That being said,  i wouldnt do it on a holiday

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Thanks guys May 21st it is!

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Does it have to be a weekend? Can you do a week night? I wouldn't go to a baby shower on Mother's Day.

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I would possibly say do them separate. Best thing I can come up with. Do one with friends and one with family

Baby Shower On Mother's Day? Detailed Story

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