would you be mad?

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I can't tell if it's my hormones from starting my period or if I should be genuinely mad. My baby tends to cry a lot which is fine for me bc I don't mind tending or trying to figure out her needs. My MIL on several occasions has mentioned that my baby has mal ojo which is just basically "evil eye" in Spanish. She keeps wanting to run an egg over her to "cure" her. I have told her no on 4 occasions that I can remember although it has been more than 4 times. I have told my husband this and he's fine with my decision. Well I guess the other day I left the baby with him, she was crying more than he could handle so he calls his mom to "cure" her with an egg. He told me when I got home and I got super pissed off. I don't believe in the magic of an egg. And the fact that he just couldn't handle her crying pisses me off. I was gone for no more than an hour and mil usually stays for two hours. So they did it quickly before I got back bc they both knew I wouldn't approve bc mil was gone before I returned. Is it hormones or should I be mad? Also baby is still the same so clearly the egg didn't work

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I mean, as MIL things go, at least it isn't harmful--there are definitely worse things. But I think it is reasonable to be frustrated/annoyed that they went behind your back. :/

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I don't think your mad at the fact that they did it but rather more at the fact that it was done behind your back. Your mil knew it's against your wishes but did it anyways and your husband did it before you got back home. He knew you wouldn't respond welll to it and did it. In all honestly I'd be upset as well. A husband shouldn't go behind his wife's back especially when it comes to the child. Mama bear instincts come out and in my opinion, our decisions trumps dads thoughts when it comes to our kids

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Personally no i wouldn't be mad. It's not like she actually did anything to baby. Its's just an egg. I know the practice you are referring to. Also if she was crying more than ususl and your husband is not used to it then it makes sense he would want it to stop.

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You can be mad if you want!  It's your life and decision...w that said, I'd be mad.

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I'd be pissed at the fact that they rushed to do it knowing you'd be upset.

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Ojo 😂😂😂😂

I'm half and half on it, what I mean is it's been ingrained in me so I instinctively say, "That's gonna give my baby ojo, stop it." but I don't rub an egg on my baby to make him feel better.
I honestly don't even know if I really believe in it or what, my family says it all the time so I'm just used to it...mexicans, lol.

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Yup I'd be annoyed. Doesn't matter if it doesn't harm the baby. They disrespected your wishes as a mother, which you had made very clear.

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If it had harmed the baby then I would understand but it's her belief and I wouldn't fault her for feeling it believing a certain way. Again as long as it's not harming anyone!! 
If you're husband isn't comfortable with a crying baby the baby is going to sense that!!!! And obviously become distressed and cry more/longer. Forget what is already done and move forward into getting daddy and baby a stronger bond! 
Good luck mama!

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I wouldn't be super mad about he act, but I would be irritated that they ignored your wishes and went ahead with it...it's a ridiculous thing to think an egg will fix anything...if it would, we would all crack an egg over our kids...certainly ok to be annoyed, but I would try and let it Go since it's already done...

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Lol!! I've never heard of an egg curing a baby from crying but that is funny and I agree with you an egg won't stop a baby from crying. Maybe you could tell you MIL that your LO still cries just as much so the egg method is not working so no need to do it anymore

would you be mad?

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