Do you HAVE to be physically attracted to your SO?

Question

I've been in several relationships where I actually was not physically attracted to who I was with. I'm married now and very physically attracted to my husband. I do feel I enjoy my sex life more now, and I definitely have a huge "crush" on him which is a great feeling! But my past relationships didn't fail because I wasn't attracted. They failed for emotional problems, but they weren't over physical issues. Matter of fact none of my exes knew I wasn't physically attracted to them. I just loved them and wanted to be with them for who they were. I wasn't sitting around thinking about not being attracted to them. I just wasn't attracted. Not repulsed but not into them. Anyway - some say relationships will fail if you aren't physically attracted to someone. Some say looks don't matter and you can have a happy relationship with someone that isn't exactly your idea of sexy. I have mixed feelings. I definitely prefer to have the attraction! But I didn't mind not having that aspect. What's your opinion? Do you HAVE to be physically attracted for it to work out?

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I think definitely! But you're not always attracted to someone the same when first meeting them compared to years later. My husband and I started dating in high school and I thought he was attractive then. But I find him attractive in different ways now than I did back then. Being attracted to someone's soul or mannerisms can make them attractive in general to you.

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I'd say for the first 18 months of our relationship when my SO and I would have an argument, I'd get distracted and start thinking about how good he looked and how sexy he was. It got to the point I'd try to not look at him when I was mad at him bc I couldn't stay mad.  Being physically attracted to your man definitely has its pluses. Disagreements are few and make up is quick. But I have to agree with what another lady said on here about being attracted to their soul and mannerisms is a huge part of the attraction too. I'm honestly attracted to many aspects of this man.

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Well with my X I wasn't, but loved him so much were He became attractive to me. With my SO now, omg so sexy and handsome & everything! So it's so much better now! 😊

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When I first got with my partner it wasn't supposed to turn into anything other than sex. We had both just come out of relationships and just wanted abit of fun with no strings. 3 months down the line and I found out I was pregnant... meant to be seen as both my pill and condoms failed us.... anyway we're still together 8 years later and we're expecting our 3rd baby. I literally sit and look at him so many times a day and think how the hell did I get so lucky? It's strange because at the beginning I wasn't attracted to him, now I can't stop thinking how handsome he is 😍

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Omg I'm in this relationship now. I love him for him but i am not attracted to his looks at all.

Do you HAVE to be physically attracted to your SO?

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