So basically I have really bad anxiety and I have talked to my counsellor about the fact that I can always (or 98% of the time) orgasm by myself, but never gave with a partner! She says it has a lot to do with being afraid to let go of the control you have over your body. Also, my boyfriend thinks it's due to my constant masturbation and my age that I can't. This makes me feel even more pressure to cum. I don't really feel scared to, at least not consciously.. why wouldn't you want to orgasm!