lost my virginity... feeling down ?

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So I lost my virginity yesterday and it was protected, also he didn't come. But now this morning I'm feeling bad about it ? I just feel weird with myself. He waited a very long time for me to consent and I finally did yesterday.. Did anyone else have this weird feeling with themselves afterwards ? Is it normal ?

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Trust me the first time having sex with anyone is always awkward and uncomfortable, because you're unfamiliar with each others bodies so it takes time to get used to. The first time I tried to have sex I had to get drunk because I was so nervous, but he ended up getting just as drunk and couldn't stay hard long enough to do anything. Talk about awkward it was on my friends floor on New Years 🙄 But then I met my ex who I dated for two years and the first time we had sex it wouldn't go in so he got lube and we tried again, but he had jerked off before I came over and girl...... we literally had sex for TWO HOURS before he came! So if you're ever feeling down just know all sex is weird at first no matter who the partner is!

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I don't think I necessarily felt bad, but weird? Definitely. I wasn't expecting it to happen which is why I think I felt weird. The next time we had a couple days to have sex continuously, I still felt weird. After that, I think I was ok. It may be that you aren't use to letting someone in your personal space, because I know I wasn't whatsoever.

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Yeah I think it's definitely normal. For me, and maybe for other women too, idk it's like a very intense experience to have someone inside you. Like I obviously don't know what it's like for guys, but that thought of someone IN me always freaked me out before I had sex for the first time. And my fiancé is the only guy I've messed around or had sex with, so I wasn't anywhere near used to any part of it. It took me a long time to be okay even looking at him fully nude just because I had had a lot of fears about men, due to porn, really. But we slowly messed around more and more and I was able to trust him in my space more than I had ever trusted anyone, which is why I consented to having sex. But yeah, it definitely felt strange after. Like good in some ways, but also strange. I also lost it when I was 22 with really barely any previous experience, like I said. So it was very new. Did you feel like the guy pressured you at all? You said he waited a long time till you finally consented, was he pushing you in that time at all?

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I used to feel guilty in the first months having sex. :/

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It's normal deciding to have sex is more than about what happens to you physically. Nobody Talks about what happens to you emotionally. It's normal to feel kinda eh I did for a few days then was fine.

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I don't know if it's normal, but that happened to me too. I couldn't wait to see him (He's a Marine that was deployed for 8 months). We went right at it, but while it was all happening, I wasn't feeling it anymore. I couldn't wait for him to leave, I just wanted him to get his nut in and GOOO. Then he made me feel obligated to naked cuddle with him and then take a shower with him. He finally left and I went into a sort of depression after that. I was uncomfortable with myself. I dunno if that makes me a shitty person, but he didn't make me feel comfortable at all being as it was my first time. He went so rough and he began to disgust me. So yeah, you're not the only one girl.

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