PLEASE HELP😔 Advice needed extremely bad😔
I'm sorry it's so long but please please read.
So I'm 18 turning 19 this September and have gotten myself in a small obstacle and I need some advice so please hear me out...
It started when I went to talk my my mom and I asked if her and my brother were okay cause they had argued. She said yeah I told him if he doesn't clean his room I'd take his phone and same goes for you. I said simply that she didn't have to threaten me with my phone if she wants my room clean I'd just do it. So she got a bit irritated I guess. Next morning I get into the car and she says we need to talk it out. So she starts talking and when I give how I'm feeling I get reprimanded. Then it dipped into a convo about how she does a lot more than me because she works everyday and does school(her doctorate) and how I don't have too much to do (been balancing high school classes, college classes, work, band, social life, a relationship), then it goes into how she pays for my phone (which yes is true although I was trying to buy my own then they got me one) and how she got my brother and I a car(neither of us can drive) basically taking everything she's done for me and choking me with it. I am very grateful for the things she gets and does for us but I don't like it being hung over our heads. So she goes on about how she's my mother and can say what she wants to me etc then she starts eventually calling me weak and basically talking down to me. And so eventually I get annoyed and raise my voice and say "I don't like being talked down to" and as I get out the car she says leave your phone. I leave it.
So. Fast forward and I'm suppose to be going over my bf's house cause he's in town from college and it would be my last time seeing him before going back. So at first she said no then she changed her mind and said that I had to be home by 10(I usually can stay out til 2 am no issue) she says I just have to get my room clean. So I clean my room. I tell my step dad he's picking me up at 4 am since my time is cut and he makes this face like "mmmph" but says okay. Fast forward today. I told her I was planning on getting a phone (I did get it) and she said basically I can but I wasn't "free" even though I bought it or something. She said I'd be paying some bills on top of it now. She also said that she when through my phone and saw some of the sexual stuff my bf and I send and talk about and says that her and my step dad are disappointed and that we'd talk about it tomorrow.
I feel that I am learning about myself and don't particularly feel for the disappointment. I feel that it was disrespectful to let my step dad look into this issue instead of keeping it between us til I was ready. I feel like I no longer trust her. I feel a lot right now but at the same time so little. I'm sorry that this is so long but I could really use some advice.
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