Annoying mom (long rant for a FTM)

I love my mother but lately she's just been saying things that kinda annoy me lately. Im a FTM so I take advice, but some things i think just need not to be said. So far she's told me to throw away the idea of getting a breast pump cuz i wont use it and i will be using formula. And i told her i dont want formula and i need this pump for when i go back to work and i need to leave something behind to warm up. And for those moments when i just need relief from the soreness. I told her ill only be using formula if im dry as a bone. And she was like just wait you'll see im right.

Then came the topic of circumcision. Before i found out i was having a boy i told my mother if it is a boy (which i knew in my heart it was) then i don't care to follow through with getting his bits chopped up. Then she was like NOOO YOU HAVE TO GET HIM DONE. And i was like why he was born with the skin there for a reason. Then she argued that my baby will be infected and hard to live his adult life cuz hes gonna be unhappy with ugly skin hanging. So when i found out he was really a boy, i sat at home with my bf and i asked him casually "do you wanna circumcise our baby?" And to my surprise he said no if he was born with it let it stay. I thought he would say yes cuz he was circumcised but hey if he says no im not doing it. So now every week my mom is telling me dont let him leave the hospital without getting him done he needs to be circumcised. And i keep mentioning that i dont care for it. Its my son and he will come home with 100% of his man bits lol. But she still brings it up thinking i'll change my mind.

Now onto recent events, im 7months (27+6 today) and my belly is finally starting to "show". I try to moisturize every day if i remember. I have stretch marks on my hips/legs/breasts from growing up too fast but thats about it. Since i already have stretch marks i feel like drinking water and applying my lotions is the best i could do and hope that pregnancy treats me right. And my mom is over here like negative Nancy preaching that I'm gonna get stretch marks and to just wait because she has them. Way to make me feel better about my first pregnancy 😒. I really don't want stretch marks but if i get them what else can i do but say i tried. At least don't wish them into existence.

And my second to last rant. My hospital allows 2ppl in the room during labor and only 1 person while you are actively pushing. My mom swears she's gonna be there when he pops out of my glory hole. And my bf doesn't even really want her there but i kind of do because he tends to freak out at the doctors when I'm in pain and i need someone else to console him and be a mediator while I'm in pain. Plus he has this thing where when i throw up he wants to throw up too and i just need someone else around for when he goes through his drama too lol. But he wants to be the one to see the baby come out. So every now and then my mom mentions that shes coming with me to my labor classes and shes gonna be there every step of the way and i need to as for an epidural as soon as i walk in and shes gonna fight the doctors if i need a c section. And i said dont worry mom i have a sort of established birth plan. I wanna wait as long as i can to see if i can actually go natural even though i suck at pain. And im only gonna do c section if me or the baby is having a life threatening moment. I aslo plan on doing delayed cord clamping so he can get all his nutrients. And my mom is like haha what birth plan u need to get the epidural as soon as you get there and never let them mention the words c section. And before u leave the hospital get him circumcised!! And im starting to think i might not even want her in the room. My plan is a good plan and i intend on sticking with it until i or the baby throw those plans out the window. Im afraid of c sections but i will do it to save my sons life not to get it over with. And my bf stands behind me 100% of anything we discuss or any ideas i have. I just cant imagine a labor where im stuck in my bed hooked up to all these lines because i got medication too early. I plan on moving around and using the shower if poasible not lying on my back for more than 6 hours.

Aaaaand my last rant. My doctors have been talking to me about trying birth control after the 6weeks pp period. My mom rummaged through my papers that i keep after every visit and saw the detailed list of contraceptives that they had given me. So she took it upon herself to tell me oh i dont need to take birth control i just need to stop having sex after my son is born. And i laughed and said well thats not gonna happen, birth control is the best way to go for me because im not planning on being pregnant back to back. And she proceeds to tell me how im gonna get cancer and die if i take birth control. First of all the whole reason i got pregnant was because u deliberately searched for my contraceptives and destroyed them. I had a weeks worth of pills missing and i switched to the patch and saw my patches ripped up. And i explained several times that i am allergic to latex condoms i feel like im burning alive after using them and they make down there itch severely and my bc is free. Eventually i stopped using bc and tried pull out method which failed miserably and here i am. Idk what she has againat bc but when i go on it after my 6week check up i know im gonna hear all the ppl that have cancer because of bc and how im gonna die and things like that. Well my bf approves of the descision im making and as a couple WE will be making this descision.

But yeah mothers know best and i should listen to her right?? 😂😓