BJ issues

How do I tell my bf that I feel disrespected when he goes either through my phone or goes on his phone and looks at sc stories while I give him head.Literally I feel like he's bored and to distract him from what he's doing I lick the under side of the tip and he gets thrown off guard but when I stop doing that he goes back to what he was doing.Also when he tells me to sit on his face he ends up jerking himself off making him distracted and I feel like if he really just wanted that why didn't he just ask.