Courthouse marriages. QUESTION

So the poll is for how others got married.

My SO and I have been talking about marriage. We're having another baby together, as well as him taking over the roll as the father of my first.

I used to think I didn't care if we were married or not. It would be nice but I'm in no rush. Or at least I wasn't.

Well with another baby on the way, I feel like maybe now would be the time. However with no rings, no plan on a wedding, or even doing it before baby (Mid November due date), I suggested maybe just going to the courthouse.

My SO HATE the idea. He thinks we need a big white wedding and me being an asshole says "with what money?"

Neither of us have many friends for bridesmaids or groomsmen. I never wanted a large wedding anyways but he does because of his family.

He says courthouse weddings are fake, impersonal, and those relationships don't last because it was rushed. I think it's a disgusting opinion to have because not everyone, like us can afford a wedding. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy with the person they love, even if it's temporary. I just feel like at such a loss because of what he feels because I want to spend the rest of our lives together, but we want opposite things.

I'd be okay with a small wedding, or even doing a reception after a courthouse wedding so everyone could still celebrate. But I'm not wanting a big wedding.

What did you guys do if you were in a situation like us?